I'm 15 and usually my mom comes into the doctors room with me for the questions part of the appointment, but the thing is that at this appointment (on thursday) i have some really personal questions I want to ask. How do I go about this? I'm so shy!!!
2007-10-15 15:02:37 · 28 answers · asked by Amelie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
my doctor asks me questions like "do you drink alcohol/do drugs" and stuff, but with my mom there i'm obviously not going to answer correctly! So if i do tell my doctor about stuff is it always confidential??
2007-10-15 15:14:07 · update #1
Ask your mom to leave the room. Tell her that you want to ask a couple questions of your own. If she's the controlling, bitchy type, go to your school nurse during the day. Your doctor and the nurse are both medical professionals who hear the questions all the time and won't be fazed at all by them. They won't mock you or degrade you. They even have to keep it confidential, unless you are planning to hurt yourself or others.
2007-10-15 15:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-28 04:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to ask in front of your mom, then just ask the doctor when your mom isnt there. If you do feel comfortable asking something in front of you mom, but not with the doctor then tell your mom and she will say that her friends daughter has a question for the doctor. If you are really really shy and cant answer the question in front of your mom or doctor, then ask some Aunty of yours or anyother relative that you feel comfortable to talk to with. Also maybe a GYM teacher can help you out, or any other teacher.
I hope that helped you out some way or the other!
2007-10-15 15:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chinki C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your doctor when your in the exam room alone or try to tell your mom you want to go alone....anything you say to them is always confidential unless they think your going to hurt yourself or someone else...that's the only time they are allowed to tell your parents anything without your permission. And don't be shy doctors have heard everything and they aren't going to think anything of you if you ask a personal question.....even though your shy its best to just get it out there and you will feel much better knowing the answer to your question. Good Luck.
2007-10-15 15:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might be a lot easier if you just talked one on one with your doctor. Ask your mom if she can step out of the room for a while. I'm also 15 and my doctor asked me what I wanted to do when I got there, my mom left for a while, but came back in for questions. Good luck!
2007-10-15 15:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by *sigh* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is what you do (I'm 49 years young - ha ha keep repeating that "young" part).....tell your mom (I have adult sons now) ....just say "hey mom....know what? I'd really like to do this by myself this time and feel like I'm turning into an adult and you can talk to the doctor afterward" and ask "would that be okay with you?" as if you are worried about HER feelings. THING IS.....the doctor has a doctor/patient confidentiality thing he HAS to abide by and therefore, you are not hurting her feelings and you can be open with your doctor....... :) Oh and....best of luck to you! You sound intelligent. Oh....and if you need any advice, send me an email -- all my sons' friends are like my own "kids" and the girls have always felt open to talk to me...and from what I've heard, it's helped.....I'm okay.....
2007-10-15 15:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your worried about what the asking personal questions to your doctor infront of your mom, then just ask her to wait out in the waiting area, im sure she knows, and understands that you are getting older and want privacy, and knows ur probably shy. As for asking your doctor questions you have nothing to worry about, they have heard it all!! Just take a deep breath and ask the question, you will be glad you did.
2007-10-15 15:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by JennaB 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. Please tell your Mom that you want to talk to the Doctor by yourself, but you will let her come with you before the end of the visit. Your Doctor is very familiar with ALL kinds of questions about the body and it is all normal for him/her to answer. If you wish to keep it private between you &the Doc., just tell him/her. Unless it is a matter of danger to your health, it will be kept between the 2 of you. Write down your questions ahead of time & it won't be so hard for you.
2007-10-15 15:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand you being shy since it is your first time alone. But relax, you're doctor has probably heard all of your questions a million times before. And most likely has heard some even more personal.
If you just can't bring yourself to ask, you or your mom should write them down. Hand them to the doctor and just say you two wrote down everything you wanted to ask him/her so you wouldnt forget.
2007-10-15 15:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by ebony_texan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This occurs all the time and I wish that patients would speak up about their confidentiality. Just ask your mother to step out while you ask the clinician questions. Your mother should have the decency to understand and please tell her before hand. The conversation should be kept strictly confidential and make this understood by the clinician. Let me know if you have any more questions. I work in Pediatrics.
2007-10-15 15:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋