I know divorce cost money. But I would like to know if someone had to let a person go and forget about the money they owe you. My ex has some screws missing in her head. I loaned her money, no papers signed but I can prove it in court. Now I can't stop thinking on her kids, while she in bars on weekedays and weekends, I feel like a hunter about to hunt a deer while is with her little deer next to her. None of them (kids) have heard about me, I was just a boyfriend of mom. But it's giving me a hard work to let the money go because of all I worked for that money (for what I can save per month, is a 1 year saving - not work, just saving of what I put on a side). My concern is if you let this kind of things go or you keep remembering. I know I have a winning case in court, but what did you end up doing?. Any advice?
2007-10-15 14:44:18 · 6 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She can have the money. But she is paying like NOTHING per month and started to pay after she made me ask her for MANY months and is paying nothing. I through away the last check since it was misserable. And that is being done on purpose.
2007-10-15 14:45:52 · update #1
Give up on it- you'll never see it again. The next time someone- ANYONE- asks to "borrow" money, consider it a donation, not a loan.
I have lent money to a boyfriend who became an ex. I eventually got some of it back, because he started feeling guilty about it. I didn't get all of it- and I think he was using the payback as an excuse to stay in my life. I eventually told him we were square and moved on. It was an expensive, but valuable lesson.
2007-10-15 14:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the proof she owes you then file a claim for it in small claims court. It does not cost much and if you can prove it they will officially award the money to you. What this means is that with that official court paper you can have her wages garnished and the money will be paid directly to you from the courts - you don't have to get bad checks from her.
Good luck
2007-10-15 14:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the cost of the lesson. As long as you hang onto it mentally, it imprisons you. Swallow hard, accept it as the cost of the lesson or the cost of the experience, and then move on. Some experiences enrich you, others cost you. Let it go. Yes, it's hard, I know. But it is only money. It's gone. Think of it like a car you bought, but you didn't insure it. It crashed, it's now worthless, it's gone, you aren't getting it back. Expensive experience, sure. But that's all it was. Move on.
2007-10-15 14:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on how much it is, and how badly you need it. If it's not so much that it wouldn't be terribly missed, I'd say it's probably not worth the trouble. Consider money well spent for a clean break.
2007-10-15 14:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Priscilla B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. It sounds like it is bothering you. Just drop and move on. Call it a gambling loss or a dating loss.
2007-10-15 14:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only break-ups but some friendships as well.
2007-10-15 14:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by jim h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋