My manager at work has been a little inappropriate with me at work as of lately. It's nothing drastic, but he will stare at my breasts or touch me in awkward ways or make unprofessional comments about my appearance. I'm not sure If I should notify someone about this or not. I'm a single mother of a 4 year old and I don't know how this would affect her if I should notify someone and the issue escalates into a big to do. I love my job, but my boss really makes me uncomfortable and I don't want him to think this is okay or for the problem to grow.
2007-10-15 14:41:09 · 22 answers · asked by Mariel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
anything that makes you uncomfortable and affects your work is harrassment
2007-10-15 14:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A first important step is to let your boss know that you are uncomfortable with his inapporpriate interactions with you. Tell him specifically what makes you uncomfortable. That will be important (although not necessary) if you have to later file a grievance. He is in a power position (manager vs. employee) and is creating a hostile work environment for you. Good luck and take care.
2007-10-15 21:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by CoCo220 D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, is threatening and persistent and involves sexual overtones can be construed as sexual harassment. no one has the right to treat you in a manner that makes you uncomfortable. perhaps if you don't say anything your boss will think that you welcome his behavior. you need to document the incidents because if you get in a position to have to defend yourself, you want it to be in your favor. let someone know by all means what has been going on so that you are not the only one who is aware and it won't turn into a he said she said situation. let your boss know that when he touches you or makes inappropriate comments, you don't like it and tell him to stop. don't ask him, tell him. let him know that you mean what you say and that you are not sending mixed signals. no means no. nip this thing in the bud. i know you love your job, but don't feel as if you should have to put up with something you don't like in order to maintain it. and your litte girl needs to see you stand up for yourself so that she won't learn to be passive and accepting of anything. be strong for yourself and to give your daughter a good sense of self worth. i wish you the best
2007-10-15 21:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him get by with this, small comments here and there might turn into something more major. Go above his head and tell his boss what is going on, or contact someone in the HR dept. You don't deserve to be treated that way. On the odd chance you would get fired over telling..you would have a lawsuit on your hands. If you choose to not say something right away, start documenting everything he does to you. Documentation is key in cases like this.
2007-10-15 21:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Tell this jerk he is being unprofessional and it needs to stop NOW. Say it with confidence, don't smile, look straight in his eyes, don't say ummm. Be straight up with this fuc*er. Then report his behavior to his boss. Keep a log of these events as is you decide to quit or sue you have a record of what went on.
2007-10-15 21:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dealt with love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it is for sure sexual harrassment! The fact that it makes you so uncomfortable is a big red flag. Perhaps you could just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and ask him ti stop. Don't bother to ask him more than once...if he doesn't stop DEFINATELY report it. As for your daughter...you will be setting a healthy example for her.
2007-10-15 21:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitutes sexual harassment when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment.
2007-10-15 21:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by JASON B 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would call him on it and tell him how uncomfortable he is making the workplace for you.
Tell him you don't want to have to take this any further for both your sakes but he has to modify his behaviour toward you or you will.
Make a diary entry about your conversation with him and if he continues take it to the next level. You don't have to put up with that at work.
Good luck.
2007-10-15 21:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any of his comments, gestures, or approaches make you uncomfortable, then it can be considered sexual harassment. Go to your Human Resources department ASAP and let them know how you feel. It is against the law for him, or anyone else to retaliate against you for doing that. Remember that the workplace is one of the few safe havens we all have just like our home. Nobody must EVER make you feel uncomfortable about going to work!
2007-10-15 21:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to stop, and start documenting the behavior. If it doesn't stop within a week or so, contact Human Resources. If they have your complaint on file and fail to take action, you can sue them-big time. Do not let him get away with this. It can only hurt you and your daughter if you let it continue, and only help you if you stop it.
P.S.- They can't take disciplinary action or fire you for filing a complaint either.
2007-10-15 21:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is sexual harresment. you should talk with your boss or notify authority.my mom a 38 year old religious muslim lady was forced by 2 male bosses to let them stuff her mouth with their underware and they are into jail now.
2007-10-17 02:14:24 · answer #11 · answered by xxbxw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋