my sister is gay and my family knows she is so embarrasing but i try to not let that bother me but its rock bottem over the edge where i cant take it any more because now she wear boyish clothes and she walks and acts like one too and this is not righ twhat should i do because i have made many remarks about her life style but it goes thru 1 ear and out the other
2007-10-15 14:26:52 · 8 answers · asked by dweed1503 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
she is your sister, love her and accept her for who she is. it shouldnt matter if she wears boyish clothes or not. what if it was the other way around and she had a hard time accepting that you were straight.
family is the most important thing and i would hate to hear you lost contact with her because of something so unimportant
2007-10-15 14:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tam 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have to except that she is gay or even like it. You have your right to feel the way you do. But think back about how you felt about your sister before you found out she was gay. She is the same person now as she was then and I'm sure she doesn't love you any less now that she has said she is gay. If you love your sister don't you want her to be happy instead of living a lie. Your family isn't the first to go through this and not the last. Just ask yourself which is more important my sister or the fact she is gay. Don't get me wrong I don't agree with the life style she has chose but I wouldn't disown my sister for it. Just make it clear it is her life style not yours.
2007-10-15 22:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would feel the same way too. the funny thing about gays is they always imitate their opposite sex in some way. I find it very strange. Because if she's not attracted to boys why would another lesbian be attracted to her, since she's acting like a dude. All the same she is your sister, aand if she needed help Im sure you would try to help her. Theres nothing you can tell her to make her go the opposite way. She'll just end up distancing herself from the family, and will eventually be lacking. You dont have to agree or be a part of her lifestyle. YOu do have to love her. Just do the best as you can as a person. What others choose to do is their choice, but yes you are entitled to speak your mind about it. And you can always agree to disagree.
2007-10-16 02:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your family have been dealt a very tough blow. This will be a big issue with you all for many, many years. There are ways of dealing with this and becoming a positive influence while staying your own independent self. You can learn how to love your sister again and keep your own head above the water. They say time is a great healer, but i don't think time alone will do much. Have you tried googling pfox, there's a good place to start. Best wishes.
2007-10-15 21:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard a story about a man that went to his parents' house and told them, "I have an inoperable brain tumor. I have 6 months to live." When his family started freaking out he said,
"relax, I don't have cancer. I'm just gay!"
When you put things into perspective, it really isn't very hard at all. What you need to remember is that no matter what your sister does or how she acts--none of it reflects on you. And the reason she doesn't listen to you is because she probably feels like she's being attacked. Your sister didn't choose to be gay.
She needs your love and support more than any advice or remarks.
2007-10-15 21:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say she is an embarassment and that you've made many remarks about her "lifestyle". How is this trying to accept her?!?
People could just as easily say that it's "not right" for me to be left-handed or red-headed, it wouldn't make it so. Someone's being unique and different is beautiful, not shameful.
2007-10-15 21:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth J 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
try your best to accept her.
maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel.
but without any insults or she will ignore you.
show some sincerity in your voice.
but you will have to know it is not possible for you to change her.
she can't choose who she likes and neither can you.
try your best to cope with her decisions
she will greatly appreciate you.
2007-10-15 21:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANY ONE.JUST PRAY FOR HER AND THAT IS ALL YOU CAN DO.SHE WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR FAMILY ,BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO PRETEND THAT HER CHOICE IS ACCEPTABLE TO YOU.YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL,THAT DOES NOT MEAN SHE WILL CHANGE THOUGH BECAUSE IT IS HER CHOICE.GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2007-10-15 21:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋