2007-10-15 14:15:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do you have to ask? That's unconditional love man...something anyone would give their right arm for.
2007-10-15 14:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Depends what you qualify as friends behavior. To much people think thats a "sideline" relationship. The fact is what it means to be a friend has a lot to do with ones ability to understand the person they are friends enough to "smack them across the head" when they do something stupid and "give them a hug when they do right". Only a person whose been close to another individiual long enough to undertand that persons purpose in life can really be a friend. And well being a father AUTOMATICALLY puts you in that catergory. So not being his best-friend would actually be a reflection of your fatherhood. So you better be, lmao....
2007-10-16 17:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on how old he is, and if he considers you his best friend because you listen and support him, or if it's because you're his only friend.
If he's grown up, or at least late teens, then it's not a big deal. I consider my mother to be one of my best friends, and I'm 23. I consider her to be a good friend because she listens to me, supports me in my decisions, and gives me advice when I need it. Sure, we still fight, but we're family. I still have other friends, though, but they're not always available when I need a friend. If your son's situation is similar, then it's a good thing. It means you've been a good parent, now you don't have to "parent" him so much as you used to.
If he's younger... say 14 - 18 area, or even younger even, then it might not be a really good thing if you're his "best" friend. Young men should have friends their own (or near) age, and at least one should be someone they really trust. If he's REALLY young, then it's probably the "my dad's the best dad in the world" type of phase, and that's nothing to worry about. Encourage him to make friends his own age, but don't alienate him, as he looks up to you.
Either way, as long as he still has friends, then it's not such a bad thing to be his best friend. You obviously have a good relationship with your son, and don't let any advice you get here destroy that. It's a rare parent that can befriend their child. As long as they learn the basic lessons in life and discipline, and you don't let your "friendship" interfere in the disciplinary areas, then you have nothing to worry about. Especially if they're older. Then it might be more a form of respect. I respect my parents, and they've come to respect me, and that is the best kind of relationship parents can have with their kids. Now that they've EARNED my respect (and my brother's), we listen to them more, and make wiser decisions in life.
2007-10-15 21:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsmercy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a good thing. Most children get embarrassed by their parents so for your child to look up to you so much that they actually class you as a true friend aswell, i think that is truly beautiful. I hope when my child gets older he will look to me as a friend also. I have a wonderful relationship with my dad. We do everything together that friends do and i treasure having such a close relationship & friendship with him. As long as your child still has friends his own age, then i think you should feel nothing but happy that you are so close.
2007-10-16 06:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Scorps 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a good thing. Obviously he is happy to talk to you about most things and enjoys being with you. As long as he has lots of friends his own age then there shouldnt be any problem.
If he is not mixing with children of his own age then I think that it could be a bad thing!!!
2007-10-15 22:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am my son's best friend, he can tell me anything. He also has friends his own age, and he knows that I am Dad and he is not, and what I say is subject to negotiation, but I have the final say. It's pretty cool. he is 15---see him on youtube at wycuz1
2007-10-15 21:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from experience depends how u look at it. It`s definitly important he has other friends like that other person said. He may have an identity situation. I went through the same thing, i am gay myself so thats why i can identify with your question. Not saying he is could be possible is what i`m saying. I don`t think it is a bad thing though....
2007-10-15 21:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by babybd8282 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a good thing as long as he still goes out and has friends his own age. If he is relying only on you as his sole friend then that might not be good in the long run. You should encourage him to make friends his own age, but let him know you will always be there for him.
2007-10-15 21:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by SeoulGirl 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Its a good thing so he can tell you everything, you know hes not getting into trouble, he will make more friends down the line but just now needs your support
2007-10-15 21:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by tra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends if he knows the boundary between father & son, or considers you as a friend & not the father & has proper friends
2007-10-15 21:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by ξήĢŁĭŞĦ ŗǾşξ ©® ღஐღ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good
2007-10-15 21:47:31 · answer #11 · answered by emmettk3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋