How do I convince my mom?

Question

My mom won't let me be on the swim team, because she hates bathing suits and hates to see me wearing them. Although I'm pretty skinny (not really stick-SKINNY), but people say I have a nice body, and I don't really see the problem. Anyway, I LOVE to swim, something I live to do, but my mom won't let me be on the team, just because of the clothing I'll have to wear.

Also, I love psychology. My mom took it in college and hated it. Therefore, she's not allowing me to take AP psychology next year--but I love the subject. It's one of my most favorite subjects ever, and I want to major in it, but my mom won't let me because she thinks it will corrupt my mind.

How do I convince my mom about these two things?

Oh yeah, it won't be easy convincing her. When I try asking her, she's always like, "NO. you're not doing that. The end."

Answer 1

Your mother seems bigoted and intolerant. There are ways to persuade such people, but generally they need to be in exceptionally good moods before it's even worth trying. I sincerely wish you luck- it's your life, and I hope it stays that way.

Answer 2

Well, no offense to your mom, but she seems to be totally unfair about everything so far. For the swimming part, she might not want her baby girl to be seen by other men in a explicit way. I can understand that, not because I am a father, but I know I would feel the same way if my daughter was going to join a swim team. At the end, if it did made my daughter happy, I would allow her to do so, because it is her life, I can only advise her and reinforce what's right and wrong. For the psychology portion, I think your mom is being totally unfair for opposing it. If you are truly interested in it, I would just talk to my mom one on one, and tell her how interested I am in the subject. If she declines furthermore I would tell her that I am going to take it since it is my life, and my education, and tell her why I am truly interested in this subject. At the end, the decision is yours not your moms, but you should always tell your mom beforehand.

Answer 3

Well my first thought is when you reach18 let her know you are moving out. Because you are your own person now, and old enough to make that decision. And be sure you cover your butt on that, have the job and savings so you dont get into trouble. In the meantime, it sounds as if your Mom is very very religious. And a bit too strict with your choices in school. If you take psychology you will be equal to her, and she wants the upperhand at all costs to you, or so it seems from your description. Seems like there are lots of NO's. Do you excell in swim class in PE ? Or just have the true love of swimming ? My Mom discussed with me my choices, and my reasoning for wanting to take particular classes, and if my reasoning was adequate she would let me take the classes. Sometimes because I want to didn't cut it. Can you talk with your Dad or Aunt for help??? If you want to take those courses that badly I would seek family help too.

Answer 4

well, I was on the swim team, and the team suits covered everything, They were one pieces, very modest. Maybe you could ask your mom to take a moment and introduce herself to your coach and maybe get an idea of what the swimsuit will look like. Maybe when she's more comfortable with the coach and your modesty, then she'll be more likely to let it go. About the psychology... the only thing I can think of is to tell her how much it means to you.

Answer 5

Does your mother have a religious objection to these things? If so, you're not likely to change her mind. If it's simply a preference you'll need to appeal to logic, showing all the reasons why being on the swim team and taking psychology will benefit you and how her objections don't need to apply to you.

Answer 6

How old are you?

I'm sure that at your age right now, you have the right to choose whats best for you. True, your parents may have more expierience then you but it is really your vote that counts.

I say you have a nice chat with your mom, tell her that you appriciate what she has said but also tell her that you are old enough to make most of your own decisions!

Answer 7

I have only one suggestion for you. When you graduate from high school, move away and tell her that you are not coming to visit her. When she asks why, tell her "because I said so. the end". Then tell her that you have your own life that is not dictated by her and you plan to live that life exactly as you please. It's your only payback, especially if you live under her roof.

Sorry you are having these problems.

Answer 8

sit down with her alone and tell her u understand wat she believes and that she didn't like the classes u want to take tell her that u r not wearing the suits to show off ur body u just wanna swim and tell her u really enjoy pyshcology and u will really enjoy it even though she didn't i think she is trying to protect u from the things she doesn't like

Answer 9

Wow, you're egocentric. 20 minutes isn't any time in any respect. basically coz u wanna be close on your acquaintances, you're prepared to place your mum by hell advertising a house whilst she does not could? Heres my concern. I stay on the city A and that i circulate to college in very own B. city A and B are 30 minutes away. i admire love love residing on the city A, in spite of the actuality that each and one and all my pals stay on the city B. It does not difficulty me in any respect, in spite of the actuality that there are cases as quickly as I wanna be nearer to my pals. well-known i do no longer innovations residing extra away. this is a splash component referred to as public transport (trains, buses and so on) that facilitates me by holiday journeys and stuff. attempt putting your self on your mums shoes and remeber that there are people who stay extra faraway from their pals than you and that they manage nice.

Answer 10

Turn 18, then you can do, say, swim, and major in whatever you want!