well . . . .
i am tryin to help a friend who is about to throw everything she has just for some guy she meet . . .
"oh, nina you should hav seen it!"
i know all about the lov @ first sight personally and hav fell for it, but i dnt believe it either . . .
for some prevse reason. . . .
i believe that you should get to know the person a little more before you talk about having chlidren together only about a day after you two have meet!!
She wont belive me . . .
but i dnt want to just leave her in the dust . . .
but she wont listen to me
so what should i do . . .
leave her to hav kids?
push wat she wants to do . . . ?
i think it's in her best interest if i help her
but i dnt want to add to her problems as well as mine because she thinks she loves someone she barelly meet and thinks they should hav their kids toghther?!
i should keep on pushing her not to do anything, huh??
help . . . ?!
she's already mad at me and thinks i am tryin to deprive her form wat she wants!
2007-10-15 12:41:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
let her make the mistake of having kids so early in life she will soon know that she has made the mistake but in saying that still be there to support her and if it gets to much out of hand then have a chat with her mum good luck
Vicky
2007-10-15 12:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by vicky_vicstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old is the guy?? I know how it feels to think you're in love at such a young age and want a baby sooo badly with that person. I know now, of course, I was DUMB for ever thinking those things. 15 is way too young, but of course you know that or wouldnt have posted. Ok, so... are you her mother? does her mother or father know? It wont help to ban her from seeing him, she'll just want to more. Maybe you can be her friend and offer to take her to planned parenthood (telling her that you're on her side, so she doesnt think anything's up) and then have them explain all the details and hardships of being such a young, inexperienced, poor (assuming she isnt working full time) mother. Also, if she has a baby remind her of all the things she will miss out on!! Parties with friends, turning 21 unless she has a sitter, movies with new boys etc etc etc. I'm 24 and am still not ready to have a child. There is so much living to do before you have to change diapers, wake up every 2 hours for feedings... and when they're older it gets even harder!!
Good luck, maybe letting her read this feed will help too.
2007-10-15 12:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you had to do. You told her that it's not a good idea to be having a baby at 15 years old with some guy she barely even knows. If she still wants to do it, let her do it. My sister once told me, "Let me learn from my own mistakes." And that's what I did, I let her learn, now her life is crap. Tell your friend, that it's fine is wants to have a baby, but she has to realize that once she has that baby, she is no longer a kid. She'll have to take up the responsibility of a mother, that means no more partying, no more hanging out with friends whenever she wants to, she's going to have to sit at home most nights, find a job and work her butt off to provide for that baby. And she shouldn't be surprised if the guy she loves so much does not stick around after she gets pregnant. If anything, he probably loves what's between her legs more then he loves her.
2007-10-15 12:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by TaDaa! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really love eachother, then they would be willing to wait until they can provide a better life for their child. At 15, it's really hard to do. If it is true love, wait until you're grownup, have good paying jobs, and a stable home environment. I am happily married to a wonderful man, make plenty of money, and have a nice house and being a parent is still a tough job. I cannot imagine trying to raise a child at 15.
2007-10-15 12:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're telling a story. However, find someone with a newborn and have your 15 year old friend take care of the baby for a whole day. It's A LOT OF WORK! That should help.
2007-10-15 12:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15 and wants to have kids with a guy she juss met?? omg, where is this kids parents?? and she needs a serious talking to. there is no point in throwing ur life away like that. she is only 15, she had the rest of her life to settle down and have kids. she needs to focus on school and i mean she cant even drive by herself (or not in tha state i live in). thats ridiculous. she needs to get to know the guy a lil better and then date for a long time, then all that comes. not 2 days later!!!
2007-10-15 12:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would seriously tell her parents to ahve a good chat with her . im 18 and bee with my bf 7 1/2 months . we ahve talked about haveing children in 2 years. he is in the military with a good paying job but going over seas thats part of our reason for waiting. shes 15 , not old to move out or barely get a job. i doubt she loves this guy. its puppy love. it would be the biggest mistake of her life . i love my man i know that. but he has also asked me if i would marry him and have kids in the future with him as well as asking my parents and telling my family. theres a big differenc.
2007-10-15 12:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things that you can tell her. One, it is very dangerous for teenagers to have kids. She can really get hurt and she can't take care of the child. She might end up having to put it up for adoption. You can also ask her " How will you tell your mom?". I'm almost posotive her parents won't be very happy. I hope these tips work for you. Good Luck!
2007-10-15 12:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her one of those babies. The battery operated ones that scream and cry and all that good stuff. Its not a real kid so she cant hurt it but it will drive her nuts and maybe convincer her she doesnt need kids yet.
2007-10-19 04:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by bella_babe_86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the leech learn something, maybe when she gets dumped she'll know that she was wrong. maybe when she does get pregnant give her some help by hooking her up with a job. and uh i think its in her best interest that you DONT help her, maybe when she realizes something, like you were right and she was wrong, rub things in so hard she'll never forget it! a good way to help people is to have them help themselves
2007-10-15 12:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by VatsuX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋