WHY do some women complain? honestly??

Question

Im currently 29weeks pregnant, i have a big bump and find it uncomfortable at times, of course theres some mood swings too but my baby doesnt kick me that hard it hurts, or my boobs arent that terribly sore that i have to curse this pregnancy,,
I LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT, i dont wish it would all end or hate it at all, its a wonderful life changing experience that OF COURSE has some ups & downs but nothing to get to upset about?

WHY is it that some women make out that pregnancy is such a horrible thing and that they go through so much pain & horrible experiences while their baby is growing healthy inside them for 9 months?
they more a less say theres nothing worse than pregnancy? WHY do they become pregnant in the first place? its like they think its a disability & dont even have one ounce of respect for their unborn baby?. is pregnancy really that bad? or do i just have any easy pregnancy?. there are some women out there who would give anything to be pregnant!!.. its not that bad

im not targeting anyone and i dont want anyone to get offended...
thanks heaps for your opinions in advance:)

Answer 1

I agree with you, even though i'm a male and will never experience 'the pain' (try getting kicked in the balls!) i have to agree with you, it is a life changing experience and should be enjoyed... It sounds like you are having the perfect pregnancy and good for you :)

Answer 2

I'm happy for you that you've had good pregnancies. Others, however are not so fortunate. With my first baby, I was hospitalized 7 times, critically 3 of those 7, from dehydration - the whole 8 months I was pregnant, I threw up at least 5 to 8 times a day, I couldn't even keep sips of water down. The last 2 weeks of my pregnancy were spent in paralysis - my daughter had pushed a disc out of my back and was pushing against a nerve, which paralyzed my legs and caused excruciating pain, which could not be controlled with medication because I threw up any narcotic they gave me for the pain, that's when they finally induced me a month early.
I am now pregnant with baby #2 and am experiencing worse complications - preterm labor ( which has been stopped 2 times and I'm only 5 months along), severe constipation and rectal bleeding, the same vomiting and dehydration and hospitalizations. Sound like fun? Some women just don't have nice pregnancies. So why did I choose to become pregnant again? Well because everyone told me that every pregnancy is different. I was told countless stories about how first pregnancies were horrible, but the 2nd was no problem at all. Well, unfortunately in my situation, and in the situations of others, that's not always true. I am very happy that I am pregnant - I think that every baby is a blessing and I love my children all the more for it and that it is SOOOOOO worth it. But, for many, it is a horrible experience for them. You're very lucky that you're having an easy pregnancy. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 3

You are having an easy pregnancy. There are some things to get down about. . .
I am almost 31 weeks now. There have been times where I've been really down because of nausea and discomfort. Also, my baby isn't totally healthy - we already know that he has a major congenital heart defect. He's doing fine inside, though. But this still takes some energy emotionally to deal with anticipating the surgery he'll need after he's born. However, I am also experiencing increasing sciatic pain (was in agony for a while with this last night) and sitting is getting difficult, and even standing. I am best laying on my side, but I also work full-time so can't do this very often during the day. Have you had to go to the bathroom every hour yet because your baby is sitting on your bladder? Mine is also doing this alot - and bouncing on it!! I am only complaining about this a bit. Everything else is okay. Which is great!

Answer 4

Pregnancy affects every woman differently. Some really do suffer from day one. Some spend every day very sick and throwing up absolutely everything. Others have chronic pain. Some develop gestational diabetes which causes further complications.

Even women who have easy pregnancies, however, get very tired of being pregnant by the time they reach 37/38 weeks along. That's usually the time that they all say they can't wait to not be pregnant anymore. 29 weeks along is still a ways from the true discomfort of a full pregnancy.

Keep in mind that a lot of women also don't receive extra help during their pregnancies, so besides the physical wear on their bodies during this time, they're also still trying to keep up with work, other kids and their house. All that added stress can make the discomfort of pregnancy all the more obvious to them.

If you have an easy pregnancy and don't experience any of those things, then thank the stars, because you're truly a rare occurrence.

Answer 5

My first 2 pregnancies were a breeze. Sure I had minimal discomfort, but nothing to remember. This pregnancy has been very hard. I will admit that I have complained more than I ever thought I would, and do feel a little guilty, but it has been a long 35 weeks. I had severe morning sickness and nausea for 24 weeks or so, along with asthma (had to be hospitalized), haven't been able to excercise, and severe intigestion. For the past 4 weeks I'm back to morning sickness, intigestion, not sleeping, pressure in my lower area that takes my breath away, and feeling like my chest is being crushed because my baby is so big. Oh I forgot to mention the weight gain because I have only been able to do nothing but rest the entire time. Of course I am very thankful that my baby is growing healthy and I am going to miss her kicking and hiccups, but I physically ready to have her born. I miss me... and my family does too. It is true, every pregnancy is different and the older you get the harder it is on your body.

Answer 6

I have a few friends that whinge and moan at the tiniest little twinge and cramp and that does frustrate me. It is also blatant obvious attention seeking in some cases, constantly overreacting but that is just the way some women are.

Same as yourself i am 29 weeks pregnant and have had quite a good pregnancy so far. Have loved being pregnant but i had quite a nasty first trimester, most of which was spent in the toilet, so i can understand how the women that are unlucky enough to have that for 9 months are miserable. In the same time, even when sick for days i never treated it as an illness and just got on with it, knowing that it will be all worth it. All i need to make me feel better is a kick from the baby, it cheers me up even if it is in the ribs lol.

Enjoy your pregnancy and be glad you are not in their shoes. We are among the lucky ones.

Answer 7

Every pregnancy is different. During my first pregnancy, I was unable to stay awake for more than 2 hours at a time and I got terrible digestive pains EVERY TIME I ate for the first 5 months. I also had a breast infection, which is hard to describe, but I will say you cannot be up and around while you've got one. My second was much easier. I was able to stay awake for as many as 7 hours at a time! Both of my babies were extremely active, usually at night and yes, the kicking can get painful. I'm glad you are having such a comfortable pregnancy. Mine were not and I know a lot of women have it worse than me.

Answer 8

Every woman is different. I had a great first trimester, which is odd to some people. I wasn't super tired and I didn't have morning sickness. I haven't vomited once during pregnancy.
But I have scoliosis and I was underweight before I got pregnant.

I gained an abundance of weight very fast and have had HORRIBLE pain all over my back. It's hard for me to get up and move around and it's made me pretty depressed.
Of course, I wouldn't change being pregnant. I'm so excited about having my little boy and I'm glad that he's growing inside of ME. But unfortunately, I've had a very ROUGH pregnancy.
Yes, my baby is healthy, and I cannot complain for one second about that, but I have gone through hell, I am glad the pain I'm suffering is helping my little one out, but that doesn't mean I am happy about being in horrid pain.

Just because it is not that bad for you, doesn't mean it isn't awful for someone else. You are very lucky that you haven't been in pain and hopefully you won't be. But understand that not all women are built the same way you are, so everyone has a different experience. It pisses me off that you would say those of us that complain don't have any respect for our unborn baby! I have TONS of respect for my baby which is exactly why I am SUFFERING instead of taking loads of pain medication so that I would feel better even though it would hurt my baby. Think about that!

Congratulations on your baby.

Answer 9

Every pregnancy affects every woman differently, every woman has a different ability to cope with discomfort and stress, and some women just naturally complain more than other women - pregnant or not.

And I'm glad you're having a good pregnancy so far. Hopefully you'll feel the same at 39 weeks as you do at 29. A lot can change very quickly! You'd be surprised how quickly your attitude could change! :)

Answer 10

I have had three rather uneventful pregnancies but number four is taking its toll on me!!! Don't get me wrong, I love being pregnant, but after being diagnosed with mthfr (a blood clotting mutation that could cause the placenta to abrupt or a late miscarriage or stillbirth unless properly handled) I haven't been very comfortable! My stomach hurts in strange places (because of the scar tissue from c-section), I had morning sickness (which I didn't have with any of the others!), I am totally exhausted and get dizzy often (from the mthfr), and my mood swings are off the charts!! With that being said, I still love being pregnant. I think some people may complain because they don't know what to expect and they were caught off guard, they have totally different symptoms than they had during other pregnancies, or they just like to complain. Things being out of the ordinary or off-kilter can cause some people to not like or enjoy the changes, thus complaining about them. Some people want a reason for others to treat them special so they complain so that they get attention (I call them attention-getters!). I have known of people who tried for a long long time to get pregnant and then when they did they were miserable!! I don't understand that!

Answer 11

Everyone's pregnancy is different and everyone has different symptoms. I have to say I felt this way too until recently. Now I have had a virus for over two weeks, can't eat, sleep, breathe, and I cough all the time which feels like someone is hitting me in the ribs with a baseball bat. Have to say, I've changed my mind, that sometimes pregnancy is difficult and feel sorry for those whom I have judged. Now I really can't wait to be done, only 3.5 more weeks. Give it time, you aren't there yet.