I'm Christian and my whole church/school is against homosexuality, I think im bi.. but im not sure?

Question

i like to talk to alot of guys n flirt n stuff online >< (if i did it IRL i would get expelled.. in a heartbeat) n i dunno what to do.. i mean im physically attracted to guys at my school (i cant tell them that) but id never tell anyone.. my moms bf's son shared a room with me while he lived with us n i found myself being turned on when hed walk in wihtout a towel on n stuff at my friends house he would like pull his pants down to his knees and like hump my friend >.> it turned me on but idk what to do v.v help

i like girls too its just i feel an attraction to guys i feel like a kid in a candy store when i talk to some guys who give me attention ><

Answer 1

You need to get out of that school. If they are against the variety in which God makes people, they are no Christians.

Answer 2

Maybe you are gay, but give it some time. You say you think you're bi. Does that mean you're also attracted to girls? I'm assuming you're still a teenager - you don't have to figure this out right now. A lot of people have homosexual thoughts in their teens, it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. But maybe you are, too. I don't know. It's something you're going to have to figure out for yourself. Just give yourself some time before you do anything drastic.

If you are gay, honestly, you're in a tough spot if your church and school and community are against homosexuality. As much as this is a sucky cop-out answer, you may just have to wait until you can get out of there and go somewhere more accepting. And know that a lot of other people have been through what you're going through - with the internet, you can find some support. There are various gay teen support groups you can find, I've listed two below.

Or, you can stand up and say "I'm gay" and know that you will suffer a lot of anger and abuse, probably. Which, don't get me wrong, I'm not condoning, but it is, sadly, what's going to happen.

I wish there were better answers than this. But at least there are some resources out there to help you with this.

Answer 3

Hey Sweet Guy,there's nothing wrong with what you feel.And things never seem to change with Christians hating.Back when we were few on this planet as a species,it was not prudent to have same sex relations.But now we are plentiful and there's no need for that rule.That is where the Christians got it that GOD somehow said it.That is a blatent lie.Religion needs to be done away with and just let spirituality rule.God is love my friend,and that is all there is to it.It doesnt SPEAK to people,and it has no binding rules.It isnt some judging entity.And it certainly did not send a son...That is just as silly as those terrorists thinking they will get to their version of heaven for blowing people up and killing Americans...The only WRONG in homosexual relations comes from religion.Religion is not necessary.Spirituality is...So you make the call.
Hugs!

Answer 4

Yep, you're gay all right. I like girls, too, but as friends, even though I know how cute they are. Only with boys is there magic in the air!!

You're in a tough spot, I know, kitten, but in a couple of years you'll be in college (I assume), and things are a lot more liberal there. Meanwhile, you really need a live person to talk with and open up to. It's too hard to keep your true self under wraps for very long. Is there anyone at all you can trust? A best friend? A counselor (who isn't part of the church establishment)? Otherwise, keep opening up on line, but please be very careful about not giving out any personal info no matter how tempting and do not EVER agree to meet anyone in person.

I do feel your pain, my friend. Hang in there. God bless.

Answer 5

Hi,

I want to apologize, on the part of the mainstream part of the Christian Church, for the bigotry of the particular fundamentalist part that you find yourself in. I've known gay and open minded straight kids in your situation over the years -- and to their credit, they have all grown up to be self-loving and healthy.

There is nothing wrong with you, just as you are. You are the person that you were meant to be. Many Christian groups, churches, and whole denominations accept gay and lesbian people -- and I can speak for many of us in saying that God is not a God who rejects you for what He made you.

Believe in yourself, you are worth it. *hug*

Kind thoughts,

Reyn
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PS Response to the gentleman below -- I am far from a lurker on Yahoo. What your response really means is "don't question, talk to elders who will reinforce the hurtful and false teachings you have already received." Your intent is to herd him back into the exact place that his "elders" want him. That isn't counsel, that is deliberate harm.

Answer 6

Is your church/school against the eating of pork, lobster, crab or shrimp? Do they insist that no polyester/cotton or other fabrics made with two different yarns are permitted? If not, and they only concentrate on homosexuality, they are hypocrites. If there are laws in the Bible that you must follow, you can't pick and choose. It's all or nothing. I presume your school has a stoning pit for children who speak back to their parents?

Homosexuality is a normal part of human sexuality and is seen in hundreds of different species. Don't make your mind up about your sexuality yet, you are still young and have all the time in the world to explore. If you are gay, then fine. If your church doesn't like it, find one that is tolerant. You don't need to spend your life with bigots.

Answer 7

Well there are a lot of wrong answers here.

You should read the bible YOURSELF!

Then take it up with an elder at your church to get a opinion from someone who has much more life experience than you.

An issue like are you or aren't you is probably better answered by elders than - lurkers on yahoo.

Answer 8

time will tell. sounds like you might be bi if you know and are aware of your physical attraction.

what's important as a christian is what god thinks of you, not church/school. question whether the church/school is representative of god. know that he loves us even when those around us condemn us. this is going to sound stupid and probably get me a thumbs down from others, but talk to god. ask him questions and be honest.


http://www.amazon.com/Man-Jesus-Loved-Homoerotic-Narratives/dp/082981535X

read this book. it is not a book about jesus being gay. it is a book written by a theologian/christian about the pro-family values/anti-homosexuality society we live in today. he thoroughly examines scripture, the historical context, and provides a thoroughly sound argument against the anti-gay movement in this country.

Answer 9

accept yourself
its a fact, guys are cute
if you dont hide from your sexuality it will be easier for others to accept you too.
there are probably other at your school who feel the same way but are too scared to come out themselves

Answer 10

in your environment youre going to need a strong sense of self . keep your own counsel and try and educate yourself about gay issues and the psychology of religeous fanatics .