ok so my friend since ive known 4ever has been acting insane for a year now and i need ur opinions,,last year she made up a "boyfriend"(i know hes fake for so many reasons but i dont have time 2 explain so just trust me HES NOOOT REAL)ok so it all started when i started dating,so when she told me about this "boyfriend" and when i found out he wasnt real i figured she just felt left out or somthing so i just went a long with it,but its been a year now =(,,she says she met him on her NDS animal crossing game thru wifi(which her comp. cant use haha)
and shes never met him b4 and they have a SON,,they adopted him(keep in mind shes 14 hes "16"),,,i would just keep playing along and all but she calls me everyday asking me questions like when i meet him should we have SEX,,=( and other weird stuff,,i cant even tell u all the weird things she says,,its all she tells me about,,my family knows cuz i was worried but they dont know what to do and my bff knows cuz were all bffs so we share all....
2007-10-15 11:52:37 · 24 answers · asked by Emygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
everything,,so basically she is wasting her life away always thinking about him,,and i think she may have convinced herself hes real cuz she invited him over and waited all night but he never came and she cried for 3 hours =(,,,i feel so worried about her idk what to do,,i cant tell any other adults because first of all she would never forgive me(her mom dont know) and 2nd people arent always that nice to her so shes afraid of adults and people like pyschitrists or w/e,,,any ideas,,,PLEASE idk what 2 do
2007-10-15 11:55:40 · update #1
i know for sure hes not real for many reasons but the main one is u CAN NOTTTTT meet people on animal crossing if u dont have the wifi,,unless there 20 feet from ur house haha,,and she has an old comp. that doesnt work with it and stuff,,so im not worried about that i know hes not reall TRUST ME haha
2007-10-15 12:02:31 · update #2
Ya i would agree that she's insane. Have you confronted her and asked her if he's true? Or tried to set her up with an actually boyfriend, or a hottie? try it. see wat happens. But i would say first confront her telling her your thoughts about the whole situations.
2007-10-15 12:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by ggrrrkmhsjjjf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm. . . I'm the kind of guy that is always friedns with weirdos (a view from the "popular" pple is what I mean when I say weirdos). Im reall yopen and know that some people justhave somethin goin on in there life or it's just them. Sometimes even I laugh to myslef about random things and I know I'm not physco. but I 'd have to actually see and know your friend to determined this. What got me was that she cried three hours for the imaginary dude to show up or somethin like that. She might be loosen it causa somethin but don't get her wrong. Some people are like that. I think its good that you put this question up. but really. I bet you NO ONE online can answer your question with being 100% sure. You should ask someon that sees her on daily bases. Or maybe even just talk to her. . . that sounds really bad but if it's the last thing you gotta do then that's what you gotta do.
I hope this helped!!!
2007-10-15 12:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Szilard V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeaaa you are making it worse and prolonging it by making her think you believe what she is saying. Ask her if you can meet her boyfriend. Oddly enough I know of a simliar situation to this back when i was in middle school. (long story). It didnt end up good though. If youre really concerned about your friend you need to be honest with her and talk to someone older like her parents so she can get some help. I know its hard to do that because you feel like youre betraying your friend but it does sound like your friend is seriously messed up. By going along with her made up story you are not being a good friend to her. Be the sane one and do something about it. The worse thing you can do though is tell other people about it. this is not something that should be gossiped about.
2007-10-15 12:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by kissyourself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being an enabler by pretending to beleive her. It is possible she is jealous or left out, and finds this to be a fun game. If she really does think this then she needs help, though I doubt this is the case. I would just confront her and tell her that you want her to be honest with you. And that her behavior worries you. If it continues and you think she is serious confront her parents about it.
2007-10-15 11:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by mandyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will stand by her side NO MATTER WHAT Remember that YOU are the the friend and steer her in the RIGHT direction. And SEX IS NOT the direction for ANY TEEN. STD's are GREATEST to those people between the ages of 14 and 25. Continue standing by her NO MATTER what storys she has for you
2007-10-15 12:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by mrdanno2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have a sit down with your family and other bffs. Invite you the "insane girl" parent(s) to sit down also and discuss your concerns. And remember the best thing you can do in this situation is continue to be a friend to the girl!
2007-10-15 12:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by JA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know he isn't real. She probably does feel left out, or in the need to have a relationship. Talk to her about it. Maybe then she will know she isn't fooling anyone. Help her find a guy. Tell her to join activities. Do everything you can to help her not think of this "guy". If she starts talking about him, change the subject.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 12:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by chica_123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents know about this? They are the ones that need to know.
How is she functioning otherwise? Is she doing all right in school, using drugs or alcohol, is she taking inappropriate risks? These are all important things to consider.
This behavior does seem really unbalanced.
You might also talk to a school counselor about it; in case the parents don't understand that there's a problem.
2007-10-15 12:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's insecure, and due to that (maybe) could be living in a fantasy world.How does she talk to you about things beside this and how does she respond?maybe she jusy doesn't feel like there is anything interesting going on in her life.Talk to her then your parents and hers and try to make her aware of it, so she realizes she has a problem hopefully and is willing to work on it.
2007-10-15 11:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jessicca Francis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i seriously doubt that this is anything to worry about;
it sounds like highschool/middle school drama in that she just thinks that she needs to make this up because of your situation with your "boyfriend"; nothing meant by putting boyfriend in quotations, just that most m.s./h.s. romances rarely make it out in the realworld from my experience. Just sit down with her, and have a heart to heart. if she gets defensive, just say that you cannot be a best friend if you cannot be truthful with each other.
2007-10-15 11:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by wwarren92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋