He jokes around about "sex scenes" on the tv as in " Oh i have to watch that" etc or remarking a cartoon character is "hot". It's really starting to annoy/upset me Also afew nights i got cramps after we had sex he said "maybe we shouldn't do it anymore till its born". Was the pain because of sex?
2007-10-15 11:50:35 · 7 answers · asked by Michelle C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If his comments are upsetting to you, then just tell him. You're about to marry this man, which means you'll hopefully be spending the rest of your life with him. There should be very few things that you're uncomfortable discussing with him at this point. And if he loves you and is mature enough - you should be able to have an actual conversation about it without it becoming an argument or being dismissed.
As for the cramping after sex, it's normal to have that if you've had an orgasm. There is an actual list of positions that are deemed "safe" while pregnant. It might be worth your time to do some research online, or talk to your doctor to make sure that you're practicing safe sex... sounds funny considering your pregnant, but you know what I mean :)
2007-10-15 12:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey at this stage of the game...the heck with being nice! Just tell him that it is annoying you and upsets you! He is never gonna know unless you tell him. And as for the pain/cramps...if you are having an orgasm then that can cause some cramping. Orgasms make the uterus contract so that is where the cramping can be coming from. You don't have to abstain from sex unless your doctor tells you that you need to. Since you are 31 weeks...I say go for it as long as the cramps are not too bad. I went all the way to the night before my kids were born for all 3 of them! Besides you aren't gonna be in the mood for a while after the baby is born!
2007-10-15 19:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by little_sis1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, that's how even the most faithful and nice guys talk with their wives. Unless they are gay and using marriage as a shield. Seriously. Or have no sex drive.
But, if it bothers you you can say "When you talk that way about _____ I feel (ashamed, enraged, embarassed, jealous, or however you are feeling). Would you please refrain from talking in such a way?"
As for the pain after sex - who knows better then you? I would not rule out sex unless your doctor says to - it can be a comfort in the last weeks before the baby, and it will be almost two months before you can have sex again after the baby.
2007-10-15 19:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ethel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he makes an ignorant comment about a scene on tv or a character, tell him! Just be like, "That was ignorant, and I don't want to hear anything like that coming from you again. This is YOUR child beating me up from inside, and I don't need you making me feel worse." As for the pain, it could've just been the position you were in... try some different ones.
2007-10-15 19:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are just ignorant when it comes to a woman's feelings during pregnancy. Next time he makes a stupid comment just tell him off. Don't worry about being nice. You are the one that is getting the crap kicked out of you, bloated, sore breasts, etc.
2007-10-15 18:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think the sex may have been stimulating ur uterus a tiny bit.. so just take it easy next time..
as for your husband to be's smart remarks. tell him to grow up, theres more to life than worrying about sexy cartoons (which may i just say, is strange anyway lol)
2007-10-15 18:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by x..Cassie..x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a husband, and a mature one at that. He would embarass me.
2007-10-15 18:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Mama of 4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋