I am tired of being the bigger better person for my husband's sake ... I never let anyone treat me the way she does... I need help on how to respectfully put her in her place ...
2007-10-15 11:40:06 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well how is she disrespecting you? It all depends on what she's doing and the situation. Who's around at the time...etc.
2007-10-15 11:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give any example of the kind of way in which this is disresecting you. But it seems you are not getting any support from your husband in this matter. Since he grew up in the same household, it appears he doesn't "get it" either. If this has been going on for a while, I suggest you find a suitable moment to raise the matter with your husband, politely, firmly, rationally state your case, and tell him that you are now going to deal with this unacceptable behaviour from your sister in law, in your own way. Then follow that by putting her very firmly in her place the next time she pulls something, and don't worry about being particularly respectful to her in the way you do it. I mean you don't have to resort to questionable language, but you can certainly be straight, plain and right to the point.
Say what you know that you mean, and be prepared to follow through on what you say you intend to do. If she has a habit, for example, of just walking in uninvited all the time, tell her that you would appreciate her
calling you to make sure it's convenient, and if it is not going to be OK, you may have to be prepared in case she turns up anyway, to be dressed ready go out. You CAN set the rules, and the only reason some people are bad about respecting those rules is because they were just flat out not raised to do so. Remember, she is clearly not respecting YOU, so to hell with you trying to respect her. She needs a short sharp lesson, and believe me, if you play your role, she'll "get it".
2007-10-15 12:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she opt for your "forgiveness?" Has she requested you To "forgive" her? i don't think of she is contained in the incorrect. She isn't too previous to be living at living house. how are you going to anticipate a unmarried individual, in finished time education to purchase their very personal residence? Even paying lease on my own expenses an excellent style of money. living at living house at the same time as interpreting isn't disrespectful and immature. in case you imagine you're so a lot more suitable mature and respectful than your sister perchance you should in basic terms back off completely. You cant replace the dynamic between your sister and your mum and dad and the faster you familiarize your self with it the happier you'd be. (BTW:Why do you stay on my own if you're married? do not you stay consisting of your important different?)
2016-10-21 05:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! Your sister in law can't be as bad as my bf's sister and I've been with him for 6 years.She is selfish as **** and only cares abut herself n if you get on her bad side, you will not win because she has a mouth and then she will go and get everyone against you and the worst part is she will talk bad of you in front of my bf's parents. I am a hypocrite as I'm typing this because I have not done or said anything to her because i dont want to get on her bad side and I just try to avoid her as much as possible but the best thing to do is to write her an email letting her know exactly how you feel. People say its better to do it in person but I dont knwo about you, but I say alot more when that person is not in my face.
2007-10-15 11:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Go-getta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you are polite. Just smile and be nice. Refuse to get into conversations with her if she tries to talk to you and avoid her when you can.
Second, you need to have a LONG, serious discussion with your hubby. HE needs to address this issue. If he allows her to do this to you, he might as well paint a target on your chest. HE is responsible for making sure she respects you. If he refuses to do so, then don't go to his family functions.
2007-10-15 11:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring her comments and actions is a good way to start. Don't invite her into your home, and avoid her.
Gather your dignity and act like a lady. If she wants to act like an ignorant person, it's her choice.
If it were me, i'd take the high road.
2007-10-15 11:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time she does it take her aside and let her have it! Why doesn't your husband say something, I'd be pissed if my SIL treated me like crap in front of him and he did nothing. Just let her know you don't appreciate her actions towards you. Ask her if she'd like it if you talked to her that way.
2007-10-15 11:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to avoid mine, she actually went and was living with my husbands ex wife, talking trash about both of us, I just ignore her now, I don't talk to her unless I have too.
2007-10-15 11:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make your husband aware of the situation and it's his responsibility since it's his sister.
2007-10-15 12:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by SweetDee88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband?
Have you talked to her?
Does she do this to every woman? if she does then you are not alone, if she doesn't then ask her why she singles you out this way.
Maybe she is jealous you have Her Brother and she doesn't anymore!
2007-10-15 11:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by AussieLady 58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋