How do you get over a guy that you REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like???????????

Question

what should i do -- i cant get over him even thought i know he doesnt like me -- waht should i do to get over him and im not the type of person that can just find a boyfriend in one day cause even if that did happen i would probably still like him-- how do i get over him !!!!

Answer 1

try to think of all the negative about him to make yourself not like him anymore.. or just invent to your self that he's a pimp, a drug dealer... loves prostitution etc. etc... it might be weird but hey, it works!

Answer 2

You dont have to have "instant b/f" Try putting your energy into something like your school work,join the band or a sport or something.Suck it up, hurt heal and move on there girlie.
You lived all these years without this guy, you can certainly live the rest of your life without him.

Answer 3

GETTING OVER A BAD BREAKUP
It is gut-wrenchingly hard to be dumped by someone you love. You just want to cry when your parents and friends tell you "time heals all wounds." (Since every moment feels like an eternity to you, that's not such a reassuring thought!) The truth is, being broken up with can be horrible and painful and agonizing. There's no magic formula for making you feel instantly healed. Getting better and getting on with your life is a process, and it's one that takes time. However, you can speed things up by being aware of what that process is. Once you know it, you can help yourself get through the stages of recovery and have a goal to look forward to: being over it. Here's how you can go from hopeless to mopey, to neutral, to warmer, and finally to being truly happy again.

KEEP HOPE ALIVE
If you start forgetting what you ever felt like when you weren't miserable, it's time for a reality check. Even after a very tough breakup, when you are feeling sadness and despair, it's important that you look over the horizon of those feelings and remain aware that somewhere, deep down, there IS a kernel of hope. Maybe you don't feel it now, but you can see it off in the distance if you look. If you can't find it, keep looking. Remember this: you were not put on this Earth to be alone.

WALLOW, BUT THEN STOP WALLOWING
When you break up, your instinct can be to hide from the world, stay home in your pajamas, listen to sad love songs, eat junk food (or not eat at all), watch brain-dead TV and cry all day long. This is normal. You should not feel guilty about "wasting your life" doing this... because you're going to stop soon. After a couple of weeks of hiding away and wallowing in your hurt feelings, you must pick yourself up and make contact with people again. Set a limit on how long you will mourn alone. Two or three weeks should be the very maximum. Write the deadline date for moping on your calendar in red (if you don't have a calendar, buy one). Then get up on that day, say "today's the day I move on with my life" and force yourself to do something with other people and NOT mention your ex for the whole day. Take it one day at a time, but get through that day. Then get throught the next one. And so on. You will get a feeling of achievement from doing this. Another thing you could do is to set aside a period of time each day for wallowing. For example, from 7:00 to 8:00 every night. If you catch yourself mourning over him during the day, say to yourself "I'll think about it between seven and eight" and go on with your day. This works.

FOCUS ON THE PROCESS OF GETTING BETTER
How many times in the past did you waste weeks being upset over something, and now you realize it was all for the best anyway? Or, how many times did you struggle through a hard time in your life, but later you realized that you learned something big from the ordeal? My point here is, focus on the knowledge that, given time, you'll be able to look back on your experience and take important lessons from it. This may not seem like a helpful thing to hear when you're still in pain, but you have to intellectually know that you will take something positive out of the pain you're feeling now, even if that seems like a stupid thing to think right now. Give your intellect some credit, and some say in how you're going to handle this time in your life.

ACT HAPPY BEFORE YOU FEEL HAPPY
You have to trust that, in time, the heavy fog hanging over your life will become clear. Until then: pretend, pretend, pretend. Don't feel like smiling your way through school? Try smiling at people for a morning. They'll smile back. You'll feel a teeny bit better for being smiled at. You'll be amazed at how much acting like you feel a certain way helps you actually feel that way.

GIVE YOURSELF ADVICE YOU'D GIVE A FRIEND
Tell yourself this is horrible now, but it was meant to be. Tell yourself that you know it's for the best. That you know something good will come out of it. That it's better it happened now rather than later down the road, like if you had gotten married and had to get divorced and break the news to your poor kids. Keep telling yourself until you listen.

LEARN WHAT YOU CAN AND MOVE ON
As things start to become more clear - and you see what was wrong with the relationship and what could have happened differently - figure out if you really had control over what happened. Maybe you could have changed some things. Others, you couldn't. Deal with the things you could have changed, and realize it's now in the past and doesn't matter. Think about what qualities your boyfriend had that you want in future boyfriends, and what ones you don't. Realize that is valuable information for your future happiness.

GET UP AGAIN
Finally, when you are ready, start dating again. Yes, for the next while you will definitely be comparing every new guy to your ex, and of course you assume they won't match up to what you had with him. But you might be surprised. You might realize that the universe works in strange ways. Sometimes a relationship that seems perfect ends, so that an even better one can come into your life. If you trust that your life has meaning and a purpose, trust that there is a reason why your relationship had to finish.

DANCE
If all else fails, put on your favorite dance music in the world and dance around your room until you can dance no more. Silly? Yes. A life-safer? Most definitely.

Answer 4

its gunna take a while..it took me like 2 years to get over a boy that i dumped..stupid i kno..your just gunna have to like not think about him and ignore him

Answer 5

Your just going to have to give it time. That's all I can tell you.
Hope it helped.

Answer 6

??? that is a good question.. but hard to explain