My boyfriend and I were very independant when we met 18 months ago. We both lived alone and enjoyed the high life, travelled and partied plenty. We'd both been dating but hadnt met anybody 'special' for 3 years, probably because we'd become so paticular with age/experience. When I met him, he swept me off my feet, however I find that entering into a meaningful relationship and caring about somebody so deeply makes me vunerable. I've found myself becoming jealous at situations I never did before. I also get overly emotional and upset like I have never done before. My vision of the future is us being together. We've both talked seriously of marraige but Im worried that the more I fall in love, the more my feelings will intensify, including the negative emotions that Im experiencing now. I keep telling myself I should just make the most of having somebody special but I didnt realise how intense close relationships can be. He's 40, Im 33 and neither of us have been married before.
2007-10-15 10:51:24 · 19 answers · asked by Darling A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didn't read the long biography , however your heading said he is wonderful and thats a good sign. Marry him
2007-10-16 05:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you love him and you both feel you are ready then go for it. I am 31 and have been dating this man for 4 1/2 years now. He's 50 and has been divorced. It's getting to the point where We have to decide either way and yes I understand, close relaionships are difficult. The thought of life without him hurts but it's hurting me more to stay in a relationship that's going nowhere, so all this to say if you both want to and your ready go for it.
2007-10-15 11:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very youthful ,Love on my own isn't adequate. A existence dedication is approximately undemanding targets values and traditions and love,no longer approximately being showered with presents and interest. I doubt you are able to become conscious of yours or his. maximum of existence is a chain of thankless projects you ought to be extra desirable than a pampered queen you're no longer waiting to be a miles companion interior the struggles existence gives you to have a worthwhile existence. stable luck advance up some so which you're able to make contributions to a partnership.
2016-12-14 18:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by rothman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should, sounds like love..you will get jealous at times, its human nature for that to happen if you see something or someone as a threat to your relationship, even lightly, your feelings seem to be strong for this person and everything you've just descibed sounds like your truely in love with him, if he feels the same way back then all I have to say is yes, go for the marraige.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 10:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by William 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that his feelings are intense as well, then yes. He may feel the same exact way for you. You two are of age and should be very mature. So think deeply about it a little more and from there your heart can decide. 1
2007-10-15 10:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by LAM3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to get married, marry for the right reasons. don't let your feelings of fear stop you from being happy. i think if you don't do it, you will have to live with the "what if" factor for the rest of your life.
I would rather take a chance than live with the "what if, what could a woulda been"
2007-10-15 10:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Soda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about getting hurt. You can only get hurt if you truly love someone. March on.
Tie the knot.
2007-10-15 10:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by BirdogsID 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for pre marital counseling they will help you work through all that stuff.If your a match fine, if not best to find out now right?
2007-10-15 10:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married ,I am happily married for 8 years now weve had our emotional ups and downs ...every relationship has it's ups and downs ..so go on get married and try to keep the love alive for ever.
2007-10-15 10:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by lanagogetter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go sleep with as many guys as you can first because when you get married that's it. So i advice you to go try out different race and then come back and get married so you can have a happy life knowing you tasted all kinds of flavor.
2007-10-15 10:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋