Last night and all day today I have been in a bad mood. I HATE when my boyfriends ex-wife comes over to drop thier child off to us. She watches him durning the day after school on our weeks cause my boyfriend thinks its better for the child to be with the mother, not a baby sitter (Plus he doesn't have to pay sitter that away.) The ex stays over at my appartment with my boyfriend and her son till at least the time I get ready to leave work to come home. She is trying and trying to make my relationship with my boyfriend and her son a living H***. There have been time when I have come home from lunch and she has been sitting at the table with my boyfriend. The child wasn't even with them (At School.) What can I do about her always wanting to be around and messing up my relationship with my boyfriend. She is also remarried. She shouldn't be trying to mess things up!I know she will always be around but she should just bring the child over and then leave, she doesn't need to come in. Help!?
2007-10-15 10:28:50 · 8 answers · asked by Don't be taken for granted! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think your boyfriend needs to put a stop to that.he should tell her there is no reason for her to stay. i do not want to sound disrespectful but he's alot a fault for that. he needs to stand up to her its over between them and both have moved on. if he doesnt care for her or vise versa than he needs to stand up to her and get some b--lls. sorry to sound so harsh but he is not being fair to you.if he loves you he needs to stand by you and defend you and think of your feelings.i would be teed as hell if i come home and she was sitting at my table. ask your boyfriend how would he feel if the tables were turned. or maybe you should talk to her husband and ask him to talk to her maybe he doesnt know she is even sitting there.its not fair to you or her husband.its not happening to me but it tees me off. sounds like you love him so much and your love is being taken for granted.its time for him and her to stop.
2007-10-15 16:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you might be right about her not needing to come in, and you could even be right about her hidden motives, but if you try to fight her on this you are going to lose, and she knows it. So try not to play into her hands...don't let her presence appear to bother you or it will become more frequent than it already is. (Note: Even when the child isn't around parents still have issues that need to be discussed. Sometimes that's the most opportune time; when they're not around. Things like getting shots, what to get them for Christmas, planning birthdays,discussing some trouble the child may have gotten into....stuff like that) Since that's the case, your arguing against that will automatically make you seem like the villain no matter how grimy her intentions might be. On the other hand, you shouldn't be forced to facilitate her efforts. Make sure they arrange to have another place to convene meetings than in your apartment. By the way, you said she's remarried....what does her new husband think about her frequent need to be there at your place, or does he not see things the same way you do?
2007-10-15 18:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing you can do.Itd be best for the CHILD if the parents could work things out BUT, you are stuck with her for the next umpteen years.So either learn to trust your bf or share him.If this is NOT the kind of relationship you WANT then you need to dump the b/f and find a guy who is available for you and you only.If he is a decent man he wont dump his kid for you.
2007-10-15 18:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOu need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Be level headed. Remember his kid means a great deal to him. Tell him your feelings with ease. If he is a good man he will understand. I know I wouldn't like it one bit!!
2007-10-15 17:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Christa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend tell him that you dont mind her seeing the kid but she dosnt need to be there all the time especially when the kid isnt there tell him how much its upsetting you
2007-10-15 17:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by crazychickstral 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to youre boyfriend. if its your appt you have every right to not want her there. talk to him tell him that it bothers you and see if you cant work something out.
2007-10-15 17:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by chatter_box2008 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why should be watching their kid at you and your bf's house. especially if she and ur bf are alone. hell no! i say put your foot down
2007-10-15 18:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by complicated 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop this NOW .. your right good luck.. if not ask him to leave then..
2007-10-15 17:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋