I met this guy through family friends, when I was dating someone else. After we broke up, I started going out with this new guy, and things were great. We would go out to really nice dinners and he was always a gentleman. Within 2 weeks of ending a 7 month relationship, we started dating, mainly due to fam pressure. We live 2 hrs apart so seeing each other is restricted to once every week or every 2 weeks. After he met a few of my best friends, a few days after we started dating, they alerted me to the fact he is gay. He talks with a "girly" accent. He's going to school for design, dresses better than I do, and has even commented on the A line skirt I was wearing was making my waist look small. He can talk design terms with my mom (an interior designer), and the really kicker, is that he's never even tried to kiss me. (I've only seen him 2 times since we started dating 3 weeks ago) He comes from a very conservative & religious (Baptist) family, he's very non physical. So, is he gay?
2007-10-15 10:12:49 · 12 answers · asked by kr D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ask him if he wants to have sex. If he says 'no', then he's either a Gentleman, or he's gay.
You might also try stripping down for him. If he does not look, and is almost embarrassed by it, then he's most likely gay.
Do you know of his other past relationships? Start asking questions. He might be bi.
2007-10-15 10:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it is a little unfair to pick out two or three things about a person and use them to determine their sexuality? A person is so much more complex than a few trivial things.
Like th other answerer posted you could point to those things and assume he is straight. You could pick three things in my life and focus soley on them ans assume I am straight. I bet if I knew you I could point out three things about you that would leave people questioning your sexuality.
I suggest that if you like the person you just continue to get to know him and if you have to eventaully you can ask him out right.
BUT I get the feeling that you are not 'feeling it' with this particular man and if that is the case then just say so.
2007-10-15 10:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a stereotype to assume that all gay men like clothes and whatnot.
I play football, soccer, all kinds of "non-feminine" things. I watch football on sunday afternoons and enjoy a good beer and nachos. I know nothing about clothes. Yet am I gay? Yes, I am.
On the other hand, I have a friend who basically is very similar to your boyfriend. He has a wife and three kids- he is straight.
If you must know, ask your boyfriend. Only he knows if he is gay or not.
2007-10-15 10:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he may seem effeminate and knows design does NOT mean he's gay.
I have a very dear friend who's overly effeminate, very flamboyant, is very much into theatre and actually collects posters from every Broadway show he's ever seen. He designs all his own costumes, teaches theatre and speech at a local college.
At first glance many assume he's gay...but he's not. He's very much straight.
2007-10-15 10:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it to me. What's the point anyway? No intimacy, you never see each other. Sounds like a waste of time.
2007-10-15 10:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by pcolaengr1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he could be...... then again there are those rarities out there....my advice to you is ask him if he is....be polite about it...there's nothing wrong with that....don't ever assume anything about someone...you might have found a good guy......(: like me:)
2007-10-15 10:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by absynthenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, just come out & ASK him.
Speculation is useless.....and he probably would like to have someone know about it if he is gay.
Just be sure you don't REJECT him as a friend if he is gay.
2007-10-15 10:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he's just a gentleman. You dont know how lucky you are. Or do you want him to do something...I think he is just trying to respect you.
2007-10-15 10:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by ajdb090706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe...maybe not. Can't really say, hun...since I never met the guy.
2007-10-15 10:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with him but if he doesnt perform hes gay if he fucks u up real nice hes strait
2007-10-15 11:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by TwistoDude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋