I've been friends with a guy who got divorced in April/no kids. I'm curious about his ex-wife/marriage but don't know what the best way is to ask. Any ideas?
2007-10-15 09:56:20 · 9 answers · asked by electra1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I need someone to write me a script of what to say lol. I feel that he wants to tell me about it but hesitates maybe because he doesn't think I'm interested. I just want to let him know that door is open if he feels ok talking about it.
2007-10-15 10:07:25 · update #1
Our relationship is complicated. He's definitely expressed interest in me and I like him a lot but I don't want to be the rebound girl so we're just really good friends who ignore the sexual attraction as much as possible. We talk about everything else under the sun except that part of his past but I want him to know it's ok to talk about it.
2007-10-15 10:11:02 · update #2
Are you friends or dating? Either way it is kind of a touchy subject but you'll never know if you don't ask. When I started dating my husband, I just flat out asked. I said "Would you mind telling me a little about your ex and what happened with all of that? I would just kind of like to know what I'm getting into"
Or if he brings her up or says anything about her or something that they did together, etc. Just say "What happened there?"
2007-10-15 10:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys actualy don't like to discuss his failed marriage (being a devorcee myself) with very many people unless he believes it is worth talking about. If he believes your relationship is going somewhere he will bring it up,and if you bring it up tred lite, IOW if he acts like it is bothering him help him go to another subject.I truy hope it all works out for you
2007-10-15 10:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by lingosdeaf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are two sides to every story, so don't be surprised if he tries to blame it all on his ex-wife.
See the link below regarding marriage, divorce and remarriage.
2007-10-15 11:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Starter....How come you never discuss your marriage?. If the two of you talk about everything else then you should be able to ask.
2007-10-15 10:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to tell you, he will tell you without you asking. Or if you think that this is so utterly important for you, just ask in a matter that doesn't show it (doesn't show how utterly important it is for you), cuz that would make you look weird.
2007-10-15 10:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to know someone you need to know where they've been. You don't need to know every dirty detail, but I think you need to know why they married and why they divorced. This will give you insights about what kind of man he is and what kind of emotional baggage he carries.
2007-10-15 10:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him what makes you so different from his ex and why she is the x first thing I asked my man and i am now wife no2 of 24yrs as I knew what not to do to p-----s him off
2007-10-15 10:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by SYBLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just star the conversation as "talk to me about your life" then he will start talking about it, trust me!!
Guys like attention...
2007-10-15 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask however you are going to but remember, dont ask any questions that you dont really want to know the answer to!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-15 10:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rick and Tammy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋