Were you happy when your parents got divorced?

Question

We always hear things about kids feeling bad because their parents aren't together, but were you happy when your folks split up? I was, because I was sick of them arguing all the time and fighting over the dumbest BS ever. They are so much more effective as parents now that they aren't together. What about you?

Answer 1

When my parents divorce about 13 years ago I couldn't have been happier. My dad treated my mom like a doormat, and never had time for us. Once he left my mom was alot happier, like a ton of weight was lifted off her. She also got closer to us kids.

Answer 2

My parents split when I was a couple of months old so I couldnt answer whether or not I was happy when they actually split. As of today I couldnt imagine the two of them together, they are complete opposites. I have always thought that it is better for everyone all the way around to divorce if the marriage is unhappy. The children will someday understand and if they have troubles with it in the beginning then both parents should do everything they can to make sure the children do not resent the situation.

Answer 3

It's sad that people go through this.

My parents divorce was awful. For years we were a happy family. My mother then started having affairs and my father found out. He took her back twice and the third affair was the last one for him. I was 14 when the turmoil started and 19 when it ended. Most of their money got tied up in the divorce and my brothers and I had to finish raising ourselves, getting split in two houses....

Take the lessons from your parents divorce and learn them well. Do not repeat their mistakes in your own marriage.

Oh btw it's been 13 years and the turmoil still isn't over. My mother bad mouths my father all the time to me, and he hasn't done a thing. She can't even say what he's done wrong. I think she realized she threw away the man who truly loved her and never owned up to her mistakes, always wanting to blame someone else.

Every family visit is a split visit. No family christmases like there used to be, even wedding and funerals are full of tension because everyone walks on eggshells. It is pathetic. I am glad my husband and I live 700 miles away where we don't have to deal with it very often.

Answer 4

Yes and no. I agree with you, my life was sooo much better; I had an abusive father; one who wouldn't pay the bills, would quit his job every year, he physically and verbally abused my mother and I, all sorts of things. And I'm pretty positive that it actually saved my life. I believe if it went on, my mom and I could be dead right now. All my parents did was fight and yell and punch, it made me extremely depressed. It was sad in a way though, I didn't know how things were going to get paid and it was just weird, even though I wanted them apart, I couldn't think of living without my biological father. The worst part though that it was a nasty divorce, and it still is.

Answer 5

I was happy and sad at the same time. They would always fight and and i hated it. My little brothers and sisters would cry because they were scared. I didn't want my dad to leave because i loved my dad but i wouldn't have to hear all the complaining. My family is doing a lot better now since they divorced. But i dont get to see my dad as much :( but my mom is happier and she does pay more attention to us instead of dad :) but i still kinda wish they were still together.

Answer 6

I wasn't sad at all. I remember making myself cry because I felt guilty for not being upset. I was 13 when they told me. But I never understood why they were married in the first place. They didn't have any of the same interests, they were not affectionate (I NEVER saw them touch or kiss, unless it was my dad trying to touch her and her shooing him away...). I know my mom was upset, but in the long run, everyone agrees that it was all for the best.

BUT that being said, my older brother was completely devastated. He was not living at the house at the time, and didn't see the progression into divorce that I did....I guess he never noticed that they didn't even like each other either...

Answer 7

I grew up wishing my parents got divorced ... all they did was fight and yell at each other ... it got old and I really hated it ... by the time me & my brothers grew up and left the house - then they decided to call it quits - I was so pissed ... I felt like they tortured us for 20 yrs ... and they stayed in the relationship for the kids ... well obviously - they didn't ask what we wanted ... lol ... !

Answer 8

well, when they first split up i was six and i didnt really understand why my daddy wasn't coming home. i was glad the fighting had stopped but i did get really upset because i am, and always have been, closer to my dad. now, eight years later, i'm so glad they spilt up because now i have the best stepmum ever, i find her easier to talk to than my own mum to be honest, and i have another little brother and sister, and another one on the way!!!!!

Answer 9

Absolutely. I was the one that finally got my mother to do it. My dad had been psychologically abusing her (and US) for years and she was doing the obedient "staying for the sake of the children". They never fought out loud -- but it was still terrible. I was delighted when she finally made the move and did what was best for her!

Answer 10

I was 4 when my mom left.Good thing cause she's crazy!! So yes...i was better off and i grew up with out all the drama