Why did you get married?

Question

For love or money, for economic security, to have a partner to raise children with...?
Tell me what motivates you/motivated you to get married.

Answer 1

Love is the motivator, definitely. Maria is right, it won't last if you don't build on a strong relationship of trust/friendship/love. You should agree on issues relating to money and children, but marrying solely for someone's money is asking for trouble.

Answer 2

I got married 3 times. All three times I married for love, companionship and sex. All three times, I got none of the three. I got no love, no companionship and no sex after a while. I wanted to raise a family the first time. I got one son out of the marriage. He is a great young man.

I am still looking for someone to marry for love and companionship and sex.

It appears that it is too old fashioned to marry for those reasons.

Women want MONEY ONLY. They also want good looks, if they can get it, but MONEY is the primary motivator for women.

The most wonderful guy in the world who makes only $50,000.00 a year will never find a good woman. They want wealth, nothing else matters to them.

Answer 3

I fell in love 100 times but waited until I was ready to get married at age 33. Found a wonderful woman and we have been together 5 years plus 27 married.
Companionship, friendship, financial security (2 incomes), and love all come into play.

The trick is to allow your brain to override your emotions so you can chose the right partner.
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Answer 4

Honestly, I hardly knew my husband when we married almost 4 yrs ago. We'd dated for 4 months... and everything had moved so fast. We were talking about kids and everything, the future. We thought I was pregnant. That prompted us to get married - we eloped. Later on we found out I wasn't....
I think we still would've gotten married w/out the pregnancy factor, just not as soon. I can definantly say I already loved him when we got married. I wasn't sure if he did.. really. I mean, I didn't know him well enough at that point to know.
But now, after 4 yrs, having our son and being pregnant with our second child... I couldn't imagine my life without him. He means the world to me and I know without a single doubt that he loves me with all his heart.
Just goes to show, people may rush in... but it doesn't mean they're in a hurry to rush out. I've found the love of my life, and even though it all happened so fast we're taking the rest of our lives together slowly... and enjoying it.

Answer 5

My first marrige was because of my religious ways, My ex knew that I felt wrong about having a child out of wedlock and she told me that she was pregnant. 2 weeks later i found out that she wasnt and had lied to me and left her right then and there. I wish I never made that mistake. My Second is because of a 2 1/2 hour phone call. Well thats how my relationship started, I knew that I was in love and wanted to be with this person. After spending time with her and falling asleep next to her and waking up next to her, my love for her grew every day and still does. I know that I have found my "one". There is someone out there for everyone and I know i have mine

Answer 6

Love and desire for fullness of joy. It's all in the great plan of happiness to raise a family together, to share parenthood and continue the flow of happiness through the generations :)

Answer 7

I married for love. I am not a died in the wool traditionalist. I probably wouldn't have pushed the marriage issue, but my hubby, asked me to marry him, I said yes, because he really wanted it and he wouldn't live with me otherwise. I have never regretted it a single day though. I have been married almost 14 years. Married young, as soon as he finished college.

Answer 8

Love first, partner for kids second and security last.

Answer 9

I got married because I love him. I couldn't imagine life without him. 12 years later I still feel the same way.

Answer 10

Why did I get married as opposed to simply "living together"? Or as opposed to being completely single?

Being that I would not want to be completely single for the rest of my life (I enjoy the companionship of a significant other), I will answer in regards to the former. I wanted to get married for practical and social reasons. For one, we wouldn't have to spend the rest of our days answering the question "why aren't you guys married yet". Being "married" instantly confers certain social status that it may take an un-married couple years to achieve. And, of course, from the purely practical standpoint it made it easier to handle the logistics of living as a couple (joint taxes, health insurance, car insurance, etc).