My friend who is now almost 6 months pregnant just informed me that she had half a glass of wine last night. Will this effect her baby? What do I say to my friend to let her know that I do not approve of this behavior?
2007-10-15 09:00:26 · 27 answers · asked by ash 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
For those of you telling me to mind my own business, I understand your point of view. I am not just worried about this ONE glass of wine. Before she found out that she was preggo, she was drinking until she passed out, until she was 2 months preggo. There are several people who believe that she has not stopped drinking.
2007-10-15 09:13:14 · update #1
Also, I am not asking to judge her, she is my friend and I care about her and this baby, you guys need to stop being so skeptical.
2007-10-15 09:15:48 · update #2
well there is many different thoughts and opinions about drinking wine during pregnancy. to me wine is alcohol, and there has been no safe amount aprroved to be drunk during pregnancy. thou is her choice and she might think its not a bad thing its really not for you to say you dont approve. but if it really bothers you then maybe mention something that you read in a magazine that even drinking wine can affect your baby, and that is said any amount of alcohol everynite has not been proved to be safe.
you are a good friend to be concerned but sometimes you can interfer with things like this.
2007-10-15 09:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
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There is so much misinformation regarding drinking during pregnancy!
Drinking during pregnancy is OK so long as you are not a moderate or heavy drinker. Personally, I cannot stand alcohol when I am pregnant so I do not drink. However, a drink here or there is fine.
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Well, your friend may indeed have an alcohol problem. If I were you, I would consult her other friends and family members. I think that you guys should ban together and all express your concern to her in a loving way. Search for details about fetal alcohol syndrome, print them up and give them to her. I would also find out where the nearest AA meetings are in her area and then offer to go to them with her.
I know that this sounds drastic, but if you have proof that she is drinking heavily on a regular basis and passing out from it, I would consider contacting child protective services (or the social agency for the welfare of children in your area). FAS is serious and if she is drinking wildly, she can really cause some serious harm to her baby. They can provide intervention services for her. Alcoholism is a disease. It is often very hard for an alocoholic to stop without some sort of intervention and help. Obviously, your friend cannot do it on her own.
2007-10-15 09:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Claire R 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Half a glass? That's ok. You are pretty high and mighty aren't you? Why should she care what you "approve" of? It's not your baby and she didn't do anything that hurt the child. Many OBGYN's will even tell a woman a glass of wine now and then is fine. I just can't figure out why this is your business? I could understand if it was a half a bottle, then yes, be worried. This is nothing.
2007-10-15 09:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Technically a half glass of wine isn't necessarily bad for the baby. In most cultures (outside the U.S.) women still drink with every meal since that's how they've already done it. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is very serious...and unfortunately there's no set amount of alcohol needed to be injested before it can happen. Meaning even a glass of wine can cause a child to be born with it. Which is why Dr's tell you to NOT drink ANY alcohol during pregnancy.
As for your concerns about her drinking in the first 2 months of her pregnancy....most women don't know they are pregnant that early on, and fear for their own child since they probably drank as well. Most Dr's tell you that as long as you stop after you find out you're pregnant that the baby should be fine.
I haven't read other comments but I can imagine people saying that you shouldn't do anything because it's her body...well they either don't have kids, or probably do bad stuff as well when they are pregnant...so don't listen to them. If this girl is a close friend of your's...I would talk to her. Let her know that drinking isn't good for the baby, and that you're concerned for HER as well. If she gives birth to an affected child...she's going to run into Child Welfare problems. Let her know (without accusing her) what other people are saying about her. Mostly because if people are saying that much...ten to one she's doing even more. It could be that she's young and doesn't really understand that drinking is harmful for a developing baby. Let her know that if she needs support (i.e. counseling) in stopping this bad behavior that you will help her. She's gonna hate you for it....but you might reach her deep in her mind. Most people that do stuff like this know that it's wrong...but they lie to themselves saying "I know a chick that smoked pot the entire time and nothing happened to that baby" true...nothing might have happened...but that's NOT always the case and why take the chance for a measly glass of wine...or a cheap buzz? This is someone else's life...a small defenseless baby...if she didn't care about whether it lived or died...she should have gotten rid of it. At least then she wouldn't be killing it slowly.
Maybe stop by your Dr's office (or ny pregnancy clinic) for material about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome etc that you can give your friend. Right now she needs someone to be supportive and understanding...not judgemental. And make sure that no matter what she tells you about her drinking....make it clear to her that she should at least tell her Dr. so that he can be aware of the issue. He can watch for signs that the baby might be in distress due to drinking or drugs...and can prepare her for an eventual birth defect. And no...they aren't always caught at Ultrasound without someone being told to look for them.
Maybe talk to your friend's family about the gossip you've heard...or the baby's father....they might have more influence over your friend and what happens from now on with the pregnancy.
Good luck....and I don't wish to be in your shoes.
2007-10-15 09:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-08 10:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by joerling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha no a half a glass of wine every once and a while will be FINE for the baby not even the smallest effect
2007-10-15 09:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Day Dreamer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not approving of her behavior, its how you respond and react to her drinking....You can talk to her about if she feels drinking is ok during her pregnancy and if she knows of the possible side effects. Friends should be able to talk about the things that are on thier minds and what might be safe and not safe. Good Luck....
2007-10-15 11:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by ravenojoy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, a half glass of wine could hurt the baby. They don't really know how "much" alcohol it takes to cause fetal alcohol syndrome. Some experts believe that in some mothers it could just take one drink at any time during the pregnancy. Idk how much research has been done, but why risk it?! You can definitely give your friend some facts on this, but it's really not your place to "approve" of her. You can, however, show concern for her baby.
2007-10-15 09:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by onetruthing48 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I honestly don't think it will do anything to her baby. I think the greatest danger is with drinking in the first trimester. And she is well past that point. I'd leave it alone, if I were you. It's her baby and a half a glass of wine isn't much.
2007-10-15 09:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by sassy sarah 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A rare 1/2 glass of wine will not hurt the baby at all, soem dr's actually reccomend it for calming false labor contractions. I asked my dr about this, I was in a wedding at 37 weeks and wanted to be able to toast with champagne, he said it was 100% ok to have a glass. My advice is to but out, your friend knows what she is doing.
2007-10-15 09:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
She really shouldn't drink while she is pregnant. On the other hand 1/2 glass wine will not hurt the baby. Let her know that she shouldn't drink anymore.
2007-10-15 09:04:38 · answer #11 · answered by sweetbeesma 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋