Should a husband allow his wife to have her intimate needs met outside of marriage if he is unable to do so due to heavy travelling demands on him stretching to several months in remote locations of underdeveloped countries on research projects.
What is your view ?
2007-10-15 08:49:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it works for you, then go ahead. just make sure that you are prepared for the problems that it's going to have. what if she brings home a disease? what if she gets pregnant by this other person? women are emotional creatures and attach to people they have sex with. what if she develops feelings for this person and leave you for them? would it be worth it then? there are ways to meet your own sexual needs without having to take it outside of marriage.
2007-10-15 08:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't ride the fence when it comes to marriage. Either you are fully married or you are not. A lot of women are doing without because their husbands are away in Iraq. There are ways your wife can fulfill her needs without a third person's involvement. You however need to decide whether or not you are really able to be the type of husband your wife needs since you have a job that incurs so much travel. Sometimes when you love someone you have to make the greatest sacrifice, and sometimes that is setting them free so they can find the happiness and security you are unable to provide. Either that, or get a new job.
2007-10-15 09:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That all depends on you. I hope you love your wife for more than sexual reasons and are not the jealous type. If so then you should consider it. Talk with her if you want to and possibly lay down some ground rules. Just for instance here are the ones I have laid out to my wife: 1) that it is strictly for sex and there is no love involved, 2) that the guy always wears a condom, and 3) I have to know about each encounter so that we keep our level of trust with one another. That is what my wife and I have talked about, so do what works for you two.
2007-10-15 09:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to the couple. If they're comfortable with the idea of an open marriage, then why not? It's not about "allowing" or "disallowing", it's about discussing the options and sharing your views with your spouse, trying to come up with a solution.
2007-10-15 09:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My view is why be married. He must be going out on you already and he thinks everything will be ok if you do the same. No man in their right mind is going to give the ok for another man to touch his wife unless he is getting some on the side himself.
2007-10-15 08:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Should a husband allow it? No. Unless he's getting his needs met while on his travels and is trying to justify his actions.
Been there, done that, have the scars.
2007-10-15 09:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lauri 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not ok. The only other option would be for him to quit his job and I doubt you want that. It isn't his fault he has to travel. Maybe if he didn't want to have sex or maybe if he couldn't but that is pushing it too far. It would be unfair. The only way that seems possible is if he can sleep with other women while he is in other places, but even that is just asking for trouble.
2007-10-15 09:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this could be one of three things. Either you get your high knowing your wife is doing other guys, or giving her permission give you the freedom to do anyone when you are traveling or you like men :O)
2007-10-15 09:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change jobs or get divorced. Such a husband must be out of his mind.
2007-10-15 09:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by monica p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely not. Get her a BOB, if she needs to have sex that bad and you're not around. If you are being faithful to her, there is no reason why she needs to get her needs met elsewhere.
2007-10-15 08:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by **Mystica** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋