she threw me in jail on false stuff i have been with my husband for 6 yrs his daughter will be 8 next month .her mother still can't get over it . i am gonna have a nervous breakdown i can't deal with this anymore ...
2007-10-15 08:16:50 · 11 answers · asked by missprisss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no my husband is great she is the physco we both cant deal with it anymore
2007-10-15 08:23:16 · update #1
i have a 3 year old with my husband. i can't just leave i love him and her also . everyone tells me how i'm a way better mother to her than her mom..... the whole being friends with her been there done that didn't work
2007-10-15 08:38:08 · update #2
we went to court and all charges were dropped on 1 case and i plead guilty on a disorderly conduct just to get it over with
2007-10-15 08:44:31 · update #3
Wow, that is bad.
I'm speechless for the first time
2007-10-15 08:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by sara76c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a restraining order put on her, never be alone with the child (guessing thats the false stuff) or never be alone with her.. if your not left alone with either of them then you will always have a 2nd party to vouch that this is all false.. i would call in a child adalitem into the situation have have them supervise both houses to show whats going on in both houses and which one benefits the daughter.. possibly even put the child in therapy because with psycho x's comes a psycho mom that has zero problem putting their child in the middle and filling there head with nonsense.. I think if you show that she has no way of causing the problems and that your a step of ahead of her every where she trys she'll eventually quit when she realizes that u wont back down..and id also seek a lawyer and get her for filing false charges and deflamation of character..
2007-10-15 15:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have to move somewhere inaccessible to her. If possible. Does she use the little girl to help her lie? I had a similar experience where the daughter lied to the DHS services and told them I had guns (selling them)and dope(selling it). The girl(daughter) was 15 and she wanted to move back in with her mother so she wouldn't have to make curfew. The cops got a warrant, searched my house, etc.Of course they didn't find any of those things and they let me go. However, nothing happened to the girl or her mother. It's frustrating, I know. If you decide to do anything drastic make sure and have it done through intermediaries. I don't mean violence but maybe---economic hits.
2007-10-15 15:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the nut job back to court. Sounds like she's a nutjob and your husband needs to do something to put a stop to this. You should also file a suit against her for having you falsely imprisoned as that will make her look like the liar that she is. Good luck with this one hun.
2007-10-15 15:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My step daughter is a sociopath, without a conscience, makes up lies, calls the police to try to force her way into our home, placed a recording device secretly in our couch, etc, etc, etc. The list goes on and on. It has gotten so bad we have had to cut off all contact with her. What a shame that it too, because we use to baby sit our grand daughter five nights a week, over the full evening and night as this daughter of my husbands works graveyard as a nurses aid. She attempted to use our grand child to black mail us, and didn't give a care how much she hurt her own daughter by snatching her from our care and placing her with total strangers when her father wouldn't cave into her demands. It was all about money for her, and each sick person has his/her own issues.
I think you need to start a journal of all the things this woman does. Write everything down you can think of that she has pulled over the past six years. Explain to the judge that this woman is using the judicial system for revenge, not out of any genuine concerns over justice or crimes. Judges do not like it when individuals use up vital resources to harrass and viciously assualt others. If you can prove your case, or even cause resonable doubt, the judge will be most unhappy with this ex-wife of your husbands. It is actually a crime to give false information to police or to use the courts to unjustly harrass citizens. If your case is dimissed, or if you are found not guilty, you can then turn around and take her to small claims court and sue her for your attorney costs and for pain and suffering. Don't allow the fact she is the mother of your step daughter to deter you in doing all you can to stop her behavior and receiving proper restituation for past behaviors.
I would also attempt to get a restraining order against her. This will help keep her away from you and stop some or most of the harrassment. If she breaks the order do follow up and have her arrested. Sometimes you have to do the hard things to get your life back to some degree of normalcy.
I don't know your situation, or if you are even accurate in how you are portraying the situation. However, I do believe you anyway, because I know how vindictive people can be and how they can use the police and justice system to cause harm to those they are angry with. Be prepared for her to use Child Protective Services against you too.
However, as she continues her quest to harm you a pattern will emerge of her behaviors. This pattern can be used to show how she is using these agencies to harm you. It will show a systematic vindetta against you and then you will have a weapon to use againt her and get this stuff stopped.
If you husband is not supportive, I think you need to consider what you can live with and what you can't. If he does not wish to do everything he can to protect you from his ex-wife, then maybe you need to rethink this marriage. It is not OK for him to allow her to freely cuase harm to your emotionally, and getting you arrested is by far excessively wrong. He should be beside you all the way and reporting to the proper authorties how she is jealous and trying to upset his and your life in any way she can. He should be shouting this off the rooftops and doing everything he can to support his and your alegations against her. Bring people forth who can testify of her instability, who have first hand knowledge of her actions and how unwarranted they are. Protect yourself by getting a good attorney, and then make her pay for him/her after you have proven her to be a liar who used state resources in a vendetta.
Good luck and try to have a good day. I am so sorry you are going through this and hope you have a lot of support around you.
2007-10-15 15:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let me tell you I dated a guy with a psycho baby mama and I broke up with him b/c of it. I'm sure she wasn't all nice b4 you got married so you knew what you were getting into. Try talking a lawyer with your husband. There really isn't anything you can do except leave him.
2007-10-15 15:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Hey There 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your part in all of this? Look at yourself and ask the question...what have I done or what am I doing to complicate things or make things worse? If you have done NOTHING at all then you should reevaluate your situation and determine if its something worth putting up with.
2007-10-15 15:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Twiggy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you lost me at the word "jail". sorry. you could take her to lunch and let her know you understand and want to get along. you could do a lot of things to be kind and understanding towards her.
maybe if you cant do this you should leave for that little girls sake.
2007-10-15 15:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
there is no way that they can put you in jail for things that they have no evidence of. i would get yourself a good lawyer and call the police and make a record of the things that she does.
2007-10-15 15:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need legal action.. what that entails is up to you.
2007-10-15 15:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts Get Over It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋