i asked this in relationships. wow im stupid XD, here's where i should ask, can anyone help?

Question

How Should I Change for him??
me and my boyfriend are very unalike. the love of my life is a cute clean cut guy working with important people with his own image set out for others. im...different. he says there is absolutely nothing wrong with me and that he loves me the way i am. he would't ever lie to me but why do i feel like a owe him somthing big?
he studied overseas in a law firm, i was lucky to get out of highschool. i wear ALOT of pink all over which im starting to see isn't really normal. im a waitress at a cute cafe. im 4'11", he says my figure is perfect, i'd say so too. he says he likes my hair and its up to me if im gonna change it. its lavender for gods sake! i like it, i guess he does,but the reason im really wanting to change is whenever i go to his office to drop off his lunch, i see his friends making faces and talking in private. im thinking that he'd be embaressed to be with a walking crayon. im really not much at all, i just want him to be proud of what he's got because he makes me so happy
6 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

Answer 1

Those are some great "friends". You shouldn't change I personally don't think it matters what people say about you, cause they are not you, and they are not dating you, so why should they care.
Lavndar hair i awful pretty, I know many people with it, and it is kinda like if you are going to dye it like that,yeah people are gona look at you different some times, but it is only hair, and its your hair, and you should be able to do with it what you want :].

So overall I say for you to stay the same.

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Answer 2

This goes deeper than you just wanting to look cute for your man. First off he wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive, right? How do you know that the little things you mentioned here, aren't the things that he loves? Never change drastically for a man, to the point of not being yourself anymore. Love is all about being able to completely love someone, without losing yourself. If you lose who you are, in time you will be bitter, things will go down hill. I'm not saying looks don't matter...a lot of people judge at first glance. Maybe changing minor things will make you more confident instead of insecure when others look at you. If you want to dye your hair a color that you feel would be less offensive to his seemingly stuffy co-workers, then you feel free. Just don;t feel pressured to do so. The fact that you mentioned he went to law school and you barely graduated high school just further shows that you feel like you are on a level below him. You love him, and if he loves you...he isn't thinking that way!! In my opinion, the only thing you need to change is your opinion of yourself :) I'm sure you are awesome, unique, and just remember...Those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind! Keep your head up.

Answer 3

Change for your self not for him. I could see if it were a problem to him, affecting his work environment, but if it's just a few people he works with, then who cares? You have no idea what they are saying anyway. They could be saying "Neat hair, dont you think? I'd never wear that, but gotta give her props cuz she wears it well!"

Until you see your actions, clothing or hair as an actual detriment to his work, then I'd leave it alone. If, on the other hand, you feel it is time for a change, then by all means, go for it.

Answer 4

Be yourself and don't change for anyone but yourself. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be with you. Don't worry about what other people think. He likes you the way you are so to hell with everybody else.

Answer 5

How many times are you going to ask this same question over and over again? You seem borderline obsessed looking at your questions.