tell your friends something they dont want to hear...
or be nice and keep it to yourself.?
hummm
2007-10-15 06:21:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Truth is the best policy.
2007-10-15 06:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by azrim h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a fine line of distinction there. Brutal honesty is something I never recommend and I will try to explain to you why. I have been in situations where knowing something and recognizing the significance of that knowledge could have devastating effects on a friend (co-worker, associate or stranger, for that matter) if a posture of brutal honesty was adopted like some moral badge of honor. Cases where I am singularly aware of a person's spouse cheating on them, or cases where I can see and assess the seriousness of their injuries (in the case of a gunshot) it does very little (if any) good to say "hey, I saw your wife with so-and-so" or " you have a deep stomach wound and are likely to die of septic shock within the next few minutes..." Military life has you frequently confronting realities such as these, and you realize very early on the impact a few loose (presumably well-meaning) words can have on the outcome of a situation. If you tell a man he's dying, for instance, he'll find a way to do that just to prove you right. You don't have the luxury of robbing a person of hope at a time when he should be fighting for life the hardest. He may yet die, but it won't be because I opened my mouth and ruined it for him. Brutal honesty is right up there with unsolicited advice....I don't give it or accept it.
2007-10-15 06:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessary to be "brutal" with someone. I do think it is necessary to be honest. It would depend on your motives. Are you truly wanting to be helpful? Causing someone harm is not a good thing, and it will come back to haunt you. Think hard before you get brutal with anyone. If they are asking you then perhaps you should find a way to be gentle with the honesty, offer to help maybe...
2007-10-15 06:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty between friends is super important. BUT your delivery of bad news is EVERYTHING. Pray first for guidance and wisdom. Temper your words. Say what you mean but say it in a very loving, supportive, and kind way. Lace all criticism with compliments. Your friend is doing lots of things exactly RIGHT and only one or two things wrong. Reinforce the fact that you love your friend. Say that often during your delivery of the unpleasant message. Touch their hand and assure them that you are here as a friend and you will be here---- no matter what.
2007-10-15 06:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the person that is conflicted with guilt in any form they are more likely to hold back, whatever reason. People in general have feelings of guilt when being honest. So, the next time you are confronted with this issue, ask yourself this, "Do you feel guilty about being honest?"
2007-10-15 06:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Elainea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always try to be brutally honest with my friend. I expect no less from them. If your true friends then nothing will come between you. Especially not words. They are only looking out for your best interest.
2007-10-15 06:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Miss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why I have friends and they come to me for advice is because I am honest and I am going to keep it real. No cut cards and straight to the point, I am going to tell it like it is, if you wrong you wrong and if you are right you right, but I will let you know. I expect for my friends to do the same to me.
2007-10-15 06:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by honestspeaking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If it is something your friend needs to know, then yes. If it is something small and won't make much of a difference, then no. There's no reason to hurt someone if there's not a good reason behind it.
2007-10-15 06:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the situation calls for being brutally honest, like with an intervention, but if it's something like bad breath I think fudging the truth is ok.
2007-10-15 06:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by The Broken Doll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a true freind you will tell them the truth no matter what. At first you'll feel bad and they will be upset but in the long run if it's something they need to know-Yes, you should tell them everything.
2007-10-15 06:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im always honest when my friends ask me something its the best thing to do sometimes they might not like what they hear but in the end they are grateful you told them the truth.
2007-10-15 06:31:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋