2007-10-15 06:18:18 · 8 answers · asked by Raghavendra R 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Pleasing others makes us feel good. It is a strength especially, when you continue to try your best even when you aren't treated as well.
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2007-10-15 06:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is a strength, not a weakness. Not wanting to please others, i think is not caring and that is so very easy, that would be the weak way. But neither should one care to please others so much that it affects their lives or happiness, that would be extreeme, which is not good either, it must balance with the other things in your life. We do not always get back what we give to others, but this is a poor refection of the other and must not stop us from giving, it would be damaging to ourselves. There will always be those who demand from us, what they refuse to give to us. And sooner or later, life has a way of dealing with people like this.
2007-10-15 13:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon who the others are. A woman may want to please an abusing boyfriend or husband because she has no confidence in herself - a weakness perhaps - but if she sees the reason he is abusing and is able to help him get past that and they are able to have a good relationship in time, then the fact that she pleases him when it would be easier perhaps to throw him out and try again to find someone else becomes a strength. Sometimes we don't get the same as we give to others but that can be both good and bad, because the woman who gives to please an abuser may continue to receive abuse in exchange, while the son or daughter of a wealthy family who has the strength to walk away from that affluence in order to please someone more needy may receive only immense gratitude for their help - not the same as what they gave but perhaps more valuable to them
Everything has a value, whether it be a positive or negative value, and it is the exchange of values that determine whether pleasing another person is a strength - getting something of value to us in return, or a weakness - giving in order to prevent a negative value in our lives. It would be a good world if everyone pleased others for positive reasons and received positive values in return but too often too many give to please others who use that to their own advantage and do not give us something of value in return, and we are left hoping that the person who gives the negative values receives only negative values in return, something that does not happen often enough I think.
2007-10-15 13:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend,see it is a situational activity.pleasing others is always for to-impress or make them lively.it can be also used as a tool depending upon the need,so try to use it in abetter fashion.
2007-10-17 04:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Prashant kumar roy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is our weakness. If you give something to somebody without his asking if from you, you will not get any thanks not to say of equal returns.
2007-10-17 03:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by ashok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do a good deed with a good feeling.
a good deed done purposefully with a bad intention backfires.
so the feeling is reciprocated .
2007-10-15 13:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is from childhood and infancy.
We get rewards from our parents when we do things that please them. and our survival depends on our parents being somewhat pleased with us.
but is that instinct or learning?
Either way, most of us carry it with us through adulthood - and some of us carry it too far in terms of wanting to please everybody, all the time.
2007-10-15 13:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give anything to any body, if you expect back.
2007-10-15 13:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by vijaykumar s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋