i started secondary school in september and 1 of my best friends was going, I only knew her for about a year we saw each other every week at drama and somtimes wed meet up, , Now she's in my form (Class) , she found out i was a frigit (Never kissed) and she teases me about it, (That doesnt really bother me) And shes OBSESSED with make upand Brands. I feel as if shes getting into the wrong crowd. she hangs out withe the people that always get into fights shes been in a few her self. The girls she Hangs out with our COMPLETE SLUTS! (They kiss each other for practise) Today she said on sat her friend got really drunk and flashed a guy from our year via web cam. She couldnt belive i've never been drunk, Like i have a few sips now and again but ive never been properly drunk, Appaerently she gets drunk all the time at parties.
To make it worse I'm only just 13, And she's only just 12!
I really do love her and she is generly a nice girl I just want her to be ok,
What should i do?
2007-10-15 06:06:42 · 9 answers · asked by KittyKat 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I al ready talked to her and we were fighting for a bit, But shes one of those ppl that just forget, we ok now,
2007-10-15 06:12:55 · update #1
She Is such a nice person But has just fallen into the wrong crowd, I really love her. Im not stupid enough to ever do that (Fall into the wrong crowd) I dont think ill be able to let her go as friend
2007-10-15 06:16:43 · update #2
The girls she hangs out with wear Really tight low cut tops, Nd other stuff, Like Flash guys nd drink alochal nd alot of other stuff, My friend doesnt do that stuff thou............yet
2007-10-15 06:20:34 · update #3
well in Ireland Frigit means never been kissed! Im in 1st year cause the school systm is diffrent here.
And yes i love her as a friend.............I'm not a lesbien
2007-10-15 09:11:42 · update #4
I know it might be hard to see your friend like that but she is a bad influence and I would stay away if I were you!
2007-10-15 06:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay let me first start off by saying that just because girls kiss eachother for "practice" as you say does not make them sluts by that fact alone. Anyway though, its nice that you want your acquaintance to be in with the right crowd and stuff but she basically is going to do what she wants no matter what you tell her. IF she is smart enough she will realize, and so will her parents, what is going on and shell stop hanging out with these people but all you can do is let her know that youre there for her. Be a good influence on her but if you start criticizing how she acts shell never tell you anything. Just set a good example for her. If it gets to the point where you think shes using drugs or hurting herself then you should maybe tell a teacher or tell her youre worried about her but dont call her friends sluts or anything like that. It'll only start drama and make things worse for everyone. As for the drinking part, even sips of alcohol at your age arent good. Your friend probably started off with a few sips too. Its not your place to save her though, just be there for her and maybe invite her to hang out with your friends who arent "sluts".
2007-10-15 13:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by kissyourself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're 13 and she's 12 has really taken me by surprise. Mainly because I went through the exact same thing your going through and still am a bit...and I'm 23 years old and my bff is 22 years old. But I've had this problem since I was 18 years old and her 17. We went to different schools, so we had different friends. However, we always managed to have the same type of friends. Until she turned 17. At this time in her life, she would lie to her parents and go partying and get drugged up and insanely drunk. She even wanted to get me involved into it. I was lucky to enough to know what I wanted and also to have amazing friends who never pushed me into doing things I wasn't comfortable doing. But not my bff. Back then, I was young (of course), impatient and very ill tempered. I tried to talk her out of doing what she did and even dared to black mail her. Which I eventually did because she would not listen to me. Sadly they didn't believe me. We eventually got into a huge fight that lasted for a few years. Finally our family (we're also cousins) found out that what I told them was true. Now we all have been trying to help her out. Like you, I too love my cuz, she and I were and now are best friends again. We still have the problem of her being how she was when she was younger every now and then. Sometimes, you just have to know how hard you're willing to keep your friendship and if he/she is even worth it. Mine was family, so I had no choice...just kidding. I hope I've helped. If you have anymore questions and want to ask me, please do so.
2007-10-15 14:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by sabrina6884 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a bit of class, this girl has NONE! She's not worth hanging out with because eventually she'll want to drag you down with her. She's the type of person that has 3 kids by the time their 15 and has HIV. Sounds like you should drop her like a hot potato.
2007-10-15 13:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
err.. u love her??
Moovin on.. just to clarify.. figid means scared of sex
i havent snogged anyone.. and im 14 so theres no prob with that
just talk to her and say its not cool to falsh people and drink alcohol for the fun of it .. its downright stupid
and shes 12? wots the world coming to?!
just move her away from the wrong crowd.. if she doesnt do that.. you can still be friends.. just best mates... go find someone thats like u.. sensible n stuff
Good luck!
2007-10-15 15:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone you care about makes bad choices, all you can do is say "I think you're making a mistake with ______, and when it blows up in your face, I'll be over here to help patch you up. But please make it easier on you and me both, and knock off with the ________."
You have to let people make their own mistakes, all you can do is be on the record as saying they were about to make one, and help them fix it later if you can.
added after more thought...
I wish I knew Irish current pop culture better (My family left in 1919) because if you were Americans, the solution would be to say to her "Look, do want to wind up like Anna Nicole Smith or Britney Spears?" I have no idea if you have similar celebs to use as a comparison.
But just let her know you'll be there when it all goes pop.
2007-10-15 13:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a good friend. it is very hard to watch a friend go thru this, but u do have to let someone make their own mistakes. just be sure t o ket her know that u r there for her and ull do anything to help her
2007-10-15 13:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by texas_tec_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 13,that would mean you're in year 8 surely?
Anyway just tell her.
2007-10-15 14:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kαtydid ★ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk 2 the girl and ask tell her the effects of all this and she may become ok.
2007-10-15 13:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Shreyas M.R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋