is it okay?

Question

is it okay to get tired of have sex fast i mean i dont really like havein sex and my bf does what should i do i get tired very fast

and he likes fast and doesnt want to slow down

Answer 1

Your not spending enough time on foreplay if that is your POV.

Answer 2

Asking is it "okay" implies that you're looking for permission, in which case, being tired of having sex breaks no laws and is therefore "okay". But this begs the question: are you tired of having sex, period or are you simply tired of having sex in the manner you're currently having it? Because if it's the case that you just don't like having sex at all, that's not a particularly "normal" circumstance (though it is all too common due to various issues in a person's past), but if it's a matter of not liking the way you're having the sex you're having, it's a comparatively simpler matter of having a candid talk with your lover and making suitable adjustments. If the first scenario applies to you, you should realize that over time this fact will severely damage your relationship because sexual expression is a normal. healthy way two intimate people relate to each other. More importantly, a lack of desire robs you singularly of the ability to enjoy the full scope of closeness and bonding that intimacy brings with it. Solving that problem is a bit more problematic because it involves returning to the root cause of the diminished drive (whether it arose from trauma or physiological causes)...this can only safely and thoroughly be accomplished with competent and sensitive professional help. And I urge you to seek it out if this applies to you. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Sure its ok to get tired of having sex. In any case, u sounds like u are depressed at the moment and so has developed some aparthy for sex.

my advise is that u should spice up ur sex relationship with ur guy. also, trying doing some physical exercise as lack of it may also contribute to the kind of condition u appear to be painting here. Increase ur foreplay each time u have sex and try to look forward to the excitement of having sex with ur man.

so sorry that u have this problem. it is one that can impact negatively on ur relationship and thus need to be taken seriously. u have to find a way to make ur man enjoy sex. please do not play this aspect of ur love life.

if it persist, i advise u to see a doctor.
i wish u luck!

Answer 4

My question to you is, and please dont get me wrong here, (Im not tryin to be a smartass), If having sex with this man bothers you that much, it could be very possible, you hate sex with men, its common in the open society today. Maybe you are Bi-sexual, maybe? Or its a very good possibility he just doesnt know what he is doing and you may need to tell him how you like it. Have you had fantasies, or even wondered what its like with another woman, think about what you think of when you are getting aroused, tell him, let it be known that this is how you get off, (to be blunt). It sound like to me just by that statement you made here, you are just not interested, its too much trouble to do this and you dont want to put the effort in it, there needs to be a compromise on your both parts to keep a sexual relationship alive. Good Luck.

Answer 5

look i knnew how u felt let me see try to ask him to make love and have a romantic night take things nice and slow and try that and then after u feel it at the right moment try to speed things up but slowly

Answer 6

change your sex youre getting bored.spice it up **** in a street or something to give some excitement above the typicall all the time bed :)

Answer 7

maybe you two need to spice things up a bit. good luck.

Answer 8

slow down!