My bf just bought a 2nd hand used TV set from his so-called best friend. His friend claimed that the tv set was in good working condition with no defects. WIthout even going over to take a look, my bf bought it from his friend and had it transported back home.
Now, this is the most frustrating part. My bf, being colour-blind, thought that the colour of the tv had "faded" when in reality, the real problem is, all the red, orange, yellow and brown colours were gone. He refused to listen to me when I told him he had been dishonestly cheated by his best friend. I've also pointed out in a straightforward manner that the real issue was the missing colours, not the minor problem of "fading" which he had previously thought. He flared up and refused to admit his friend had cheated him and he was in fact, cheated. Anyway, this same friend cheated him of $1000 of which until now did not return and my bf did not even get it back!
I'm really pissed off and I think he is really gullible and deceivable! What to do????
2007-10-15 04:27:14 · 5 answers · asked by Lost-Hurt-Disappointed 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
So I flared up and told him that he's "dumb" to always get cheated by his friend! I'm just speaking my honest thoughts cos I can tolerate it no more. What would you do if you were ME???
2007-10-15 04:28:20 · update #1
The worst thing to do is tell him that he's stupid. That automatically puts him on the defensive and negates any conversation you can have with him. Instead try starting out by saying that you're concerned with the purchase he made or that you think he should maybe talk to his friend about the concerns with the TV. This approach is more supportive and loving of him and should help open a conversation about what has happened. If the guy is really his best friend, he should be able to talk to him about the tv.
Second, it's true that it isn't really your problem unless it's your money or you two are engaged or married. It's something your boyfriend did with his friend and you continuing to complain about it will only make you seem like you're nagging whether you are or not.
2007-10-15 06:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by blakester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm that's a crappy situation!!!
I can understand how frustrated you are, but your boyfriend probably doesn't want to think that his best friend would do something like that to him, I don't think anyone would!!
I think maybe you should either confront his friend(it COULD,not likely but could be the case he hadn't used the tv for a while and it was fine when he left it, probably nt though, he sounds like a prick!), try to go about saying it in a different way, or maybe if there's someone over at your house, and just ask them to look at the tv and tell you what they think's wrong with it, because it would be very unlikely for you both to 'make up' the exact same lie!!!
Well good luc anyway!
2007-10-15 11:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ladytron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I RETURN IT BACK AND ALSO CONTACT HIS FRIEND DIRECTLY THAT HE CHEATED.......ANYWAY ONCE SOLD NEVER BE RETUNED TRY TO FIX IT THROUGH ANY TECHNITIAN AND DONT WORRY....AND NEVER FORGET TO CALL HIS SO-CALLED FRIEND ABOUT THIS. KEEP ALL THE MONEY IN YOUR HANDS BEFORE HE BUY ANY BEST THING LIKE THAT AGAIN.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-15 11:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by FAYAZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to keep his friendship, just tell your boyfriend not to buy from that guy, but don't push him to return it.
2007-10-15 11:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, it's not your problem.
2007-10-15 11:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋