i was just wondering when you told your other children you was pregnant? i am 10 wks pregnant, i have told my oldest child who is 12 years old but i have not told my other 3, my son is autisic and im not sure he will fully get what im trying to tell him untell i show and he has something he can say "look mummy's having a baby" my daughter is 5 and if i tell her she is going to exspect it over night just like when you talk about xmas or birthdays she thinks it will be tomorow, and my youngest is 2, i really dont think he will understand at all but hes my baby and i need to prapare him for this.
Any advice would be great, Thanx.
2007-10-15 04:24:19 · 14 answers · asked by Baby Dee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
thanx to everyone who answered you have helped me alot to work out when the best time to tell them is, i should be having my first scan next week so i think ill tell them then when i know how things are going to be,
to that person who asked if im having number 5, yes i am having number 5, this will be another much loved child to 2 fulltime working parents.
2007-10-15 04:40:08 · update #1
It's probably better you let them know when you start showing, bc then you'll never hear the end of the "when is the baby coming?" or "what's taking so long??" lol.
2007-10-15 04:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by chichibaby 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your first trimester is over, so your risk of miscarriage is less. Your oldest is old enough to understand what that means, the others are not. You might want to wait until you start to show, so they can understand better.
When you do tell them, don't worry too much about your 5 & 2 year olds not understanding... my daughter is 5 and she understands that the baby is in my tummy and will be coming after Christmas... she understands that it's not coming right away. The 2 year old won't have as good of a concept of time, but you can just tell him/her that the baby has to stay in your tummy for awhile before he/she comes out.
Start talking to both of the little ones about being a big sister/brother and how things might be different when the baby comes.
Congrats on #5!
2007-10-15 04:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its better to tell after three months or maybe a lil earlier so that they understand your need to take extra rest and cooperate with you in lil ways that they can. especially the 12 year old can be a big help to you when you feel tired as he /she can understand your need to take some time off for yourself. The kids will sure be very excited to know that they would soon have a companion. You can share this with one of them and they will tell among each other!! the younger one who is 2 year old wld surely like the idea but tell him only when its few mnths left else he will ask you everyday...for all nine months lol. so my advice..ONLY tell the 12 year old now...rest everyone you can tell a lil later...as kids are too anxious..they cant wait 9 months for it...so better to tell the younger ones a lil later like when you start showing and only few mnths are left...Good Luck!
2007-10-15 04:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Aquagal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the younger children, perhaps you can wait until the baby is moving around and let them observe your tummy and touch it. You can explain to them that the new baby still needs time to grow in your tummy and it will be a little bit longer before the new baby joins the family.
2007-10-15 04:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People normaly wait about 13 to 14 weeks before telling someone, your other children will proably not understand if you tell them you are pregnant, you might tell them, they are going to be a new big sister or big brother.
2007-10-15 04:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jamin 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should tell your children when you find out if its a boy or a girl...so you can tell them if they are gonna have a brother or a sister...but try your best to explain to them that the babys not coming for a while...and that they must be patient...although you might want to tell them in words that they willunderstand...hope ive helped!!!
2007-10-15 04:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell them whenever. I mean, don't wait till you're obvious and they wonder if mommy's expanding to blow up, but you know, explain that they're having another sibling, to play with or something, to make them more comfortable and joyfull about it.
2007-10-15 04:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them...weather they understand right away or not, if it takes you showing to prove its really happening, that doesn't mean you have to wait to tell them anything, i would tell them now, and wait for nature to prove it. answer any questions, and get them ready
2007-10-15 04:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by prplfae 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you already have 4 kids, and are working on noumber 5?
2007-10-15 04:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
my niece is 5 and i told her she just listens to my belly everyday and hears it gurgling lol i can't wait until its kicking time she'll have a blast! but tell them they understand more than you think.
2007-10-15 04:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by britbutt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋