Do you believe once a cheater, always a cheater?

Question

My ex husb just cheated on his current girlfreind and its all my friends talk about.

Answer 1

YES..........most definately once a cheater always a cheater

Answer 2

I do not believe that cheating is ever acceptable in a relationship especially if intimacy is between you. Its to dangerous out there in the world today with all the STD'S out there. When someone does cheat in a relationship it tells you a lot about their morals and how they do not view commitment with someone. On the other hand there are people in a relationship that have cheated and were wrong and realize that they are and come to look at things differently.Some have been known to cheat only one time and work on themselves and are truly remorsefull and never repeat it again....but everyone and every circumstance is different. It all depends on what that person is aware of what they have to lose.... cheating can be controlled because it is always a choice. If someone constantly repeats this behavior then they have some real underlying issues in themselves and cannot be trusted to ever be faithful. I think forgiving someone one time for cheating has a lot to do with how many years have been invested and what is involved emotionally between the couple. Nothing is ever the same again though and the relationship has to start over with new commitments and preventative measures on the person cheating so that it never happens again. Also, lots of constructive therapy to understand where to go with things and to make a choice in learning how to live with it. All I can say is that everyone is different and not the same.....it all depends on if someone believes that cheating was wrong, is accountable for their actions and wants to be right in a relationship.

Answer 3

There are few things in this world that 'always' happen...having said that, it does appear that someone who cheats is much more likely to cheat again, than someone who would be cheating for the first time.

I've known people who cheated, were riddled with guilt afterward, and as far as I know never cheated again. They said they had no idea how horrid they would feel afterward....

Others get a rush out of it...they are selfish and want their desires met, and don't care about anyone else's feelings but their own.

What your ex husband may do or have done in the past, who knows? Not sure why you are curious, since he's your "ex".

Answer 4

Not necessarily... I've been happily married for 4 years, together for 4, and never once cheated on my husband, not even when we were dating. However, I cheated relentlessly on every boyfriend before him. I think when I realized that he was so wonderful, I a) had no desire to do anything to hurt him, and b) had no desire for anyone else anyways.

On the other hand, I believe that barring something drastic, for most people once a cheater, always a cheater applies. Especially with the same person - if you cheat on someone once, you'll do it again.

Answer 5

I think you will always have cheating tendencies but they can be overcome. Truly. Thats up to the person and whom they are really in love with. Is it a give and take relationship currently? If not then weather they are abusing or being abused on any scale without acknowledging and trying to work through relationship problems then theyre tendency to cheat probably wont be overcome. Just an opinion.

Answer 6

Not sure why your friends care so much.
No I don't believe once a cheater, always a cheater. Of course there are people out there like that, but I don't really think everyone that cheats will do it again.
I do believe that some cheaters learn their lesson and don't do it again.
If he is your ex, and cheated on you, and then cheated on her, then he may be one of those people that will do it over and over, but if he is your ex, you can be glad for that (that he's an ex) and not worry about it anymore.

Answer 7

Definitely yes! If they cheat and you stay in a relationship, they will do it again and again. I do not know if it is because you let them get by with it, or probably something lacking or fear in the guy/girl to commit. I talk from experience. I must lack a gene or something, because it happened over and over again. They said it was nothing I did wrong, but apparently they wanted more. Next to licking their feet and kissing their behinds, there could not have been too much more I could have done. Just do not let it reflect on you as a person. They are the people in need and missing something which they may never obtain.

Answer 8

I used to believe that. I was the cheater. I would always hate myself afterward, but I always knew I would do it again.
I am now In a relationship that I would give my life before I cheated. So now my feelings on that have changed. I will never, ever cheat again.

Answer 9

I don't think that you can make such a blanket statement. I think that many men cheat in their twenties but later come to realize that there are more important things in life than a quick roll in the hay. Some people never learn this lesson and some people are happy not to. Women cheat as much as men these days though.

Answer 10

I'm not sure if that saying goes for every cheater but with my personal experience once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 11

If you cheat on a person you will generally cheat on that person again, because they are not what you are looking for but they don't want to lose you but. There is alot of chance you will find someone else and never cheat again. I cheated one, and have now been married for 2 year and have a baby.