She is paying $700/- per month for his car and ins.What she should do to make him understand money does not grow on the tree.some one has to work for that.
2007-10-15 03:52:38 · 18 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop paying.
2007-10-15 03:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by simply_me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh you put your foot down NOW!! He does this because you let him. Dont let him take advantage of you no more, you tell him that your giving him 2 months to get a job and he can start paying his own bills. He needs to stand up and be a man. Yes we love our kids and we want them to have the best but come on mom, like you said money doesnt grow on trees. Can you imagine what you could do with an extra 700 a month. Dam I wish I had that extra $$$$. You need to be firm with this. Sounds lke this boy is spoiled, I dont know too many 21 yr olds that are getting there notes paid by mommy. He should be ashammed of himself. Please do yourself a favor and set him straight.
2007-10-15 11:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by saraidan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a case of bad parenting. At 19 I had my own place and was working 70hr work weeks. by 22 I was married and managing my household fiances. Now at 23 i just bought my first house. I had nights where I had no money and couldnt afford food, it made me grow as a person. Thats why my friends who had parents that paid for everything are losers and I am a productive member of society
2007-10-15 11:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If mom is giving him $$$, he has learned already that it grows on trees. If SHE has raised this child to expect $$ for nothing, he knows that work is not expected. Mom needs counseling, not the kid.... SHE can't be a rug and lay there unless she wishes. None of us can be used unless we allow it to happen. SHE is allowing it to happen. So SHE is the problem, not him. SHE needs counseling. Suggestions you might be given here may indeed be good, but SHE has to learn the language of "NO" and she doesn't have the ability, nor the language. This is a job for a counselor.... Everyone on this site can suggest what SHE ought to say to him, but unless she gets a different mind-set, won't happen.... counseling.....trust me.
2007-10-15 11:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the 21 yr old boy he has to start paying for the car and insurance.. If he doesn't have a job by the next due car payment... put it up for sale. this boy should be standing on his own two feet.
2007-10-15 10:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Back W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the car. You are the one paying for it. Tell him to get a job. Cut him off, he is a grown man. Put your foot down.
2007-10-15 10:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out for a while and then he will get the clue, sometimes parents dont see that giving too much to your children is actually hurting them.... Good luck...also she could give the ultimatum, get a job before the month is out or find somewhere eslse to live...etc..
2007-10-15 10:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by christineth1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ALLOW him to use you like that. Yes you are the parent and he is your child...but he is 21 years old and that is old enough. Tell him to get a job and start taking responsibility!!!
2007-10-15 10:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by aguilar_laurita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm you should return the car and kick his free loading butt out are you gonna raise him till hes thirty hell he doesnt even need a girl cause it sounds like you do everything for him can i move in i dont have a car payment but do have a mortgage and i think he needs a brother lol
2007-10-15 11:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't pay for his car and insurance! If he doesn't have a job he shouldn't have a car and expect her to pay for it. He needs to grow up
2007-10-15 10:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by mommacat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out of the house and make him pay his own bills.
2007-10-15 10:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by julez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋