We are both 35, self-sufficient, educated and have no major flaws, it just seems we don't want or can't mesh our lives together. It sucks but sometimes I feel like I need to just be alone forever. What if I just made a mistake and he isn't the one? Does the "ONE" exist?
2007-10-15 02:56:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In answer to you last question, no. You are an educated woman, does it make sense to you that there is only ONE person out the millions of person on earth, who is compatible with you? Marriage is about compromise and give and take. If you and he are unwilling to compromise, then it is not likely that you will be happy together.
2007-10-15 03:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think the One does exist. But I also think that if you find each other later in life when you are set in your ways that you have to re-evaluate what is important to you. You can continue to see each other with no real promise of commitment to the future and that works well for some people. Or you can both compromise on how to mesh your lives together. When you share your time with someone else you can't always do exactly what you want, you have to consider the other person and what they might want to do. That's a two way street. But even when you find the One it still takes work to make the relationship flow smoothly.
2007-10-15 10:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is going to be perfect for you --- relationships don't work that way. They're give and take, and adjustments have to be made in order for another person to "fit" into our lives. There's no reason for either of you to cease being self-sufficient. If you can't or won't mesh your lives together, then I'd say that someone doesn't want the relationship as much as the other one does. Make the effort to get on the same page. Discuss your expectations of each other, and make some compromises. It can work.
2007-10-15 10:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by mt75689 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is someone for everyone. I don't think there is "one" person. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and we're still working out little kinks. You know, he gets mad at the littlest things and then he puts the whole family at edge. I want him to stop it, so he's finally started working on it. It took 7 years but he's finally trying. There's nothing that says you ever have to get married or even be in a relationship. Sometimes people are happy being alone. And that's ok. There's nothing wrong with it. Do whatever makes you happy. If one day you do find that "one" person that you just can't live without then go for it. But if your not happy you can't force yourself to be.
2007-10-15 10:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by cutey171 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some compromise in the marriage. I am in a relationship with someone who was literally stuck in his way for the last 12 years. I had to persevere trhough and show him that there sometimes a better way, and that his way isn't always the correct way. He was willing to compromise and listen to new ideas, but not everyone is willing to do that. Not willing to compromise in or for a relationship can make for a very lonley existence! Do you want to be alone always, if so, get out and don't complicate another's life.
2007-10-15 11:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one can tell or say whether that " One " person for you exists, but there are a ton of people that have flaws and would do you just fine,
2007-10-15 12:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't or won't, then you are not made for each other.
2007-10-15 10:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋