It's been six months and sexually everything was great until recently. He could go on a long time and up to 3 x's in a day......it was awesome. Lately, he's been a 2-minute man and then he falls asleep! The first time it happened, I was understanding, the second time, I was mad. I asked him what is going on and he says that it's just too good (I think that's a cop out) and that he's more relaxed w/me. I told him he better work on his concentration and yada yada yada, basically made him feel like crap, but I was frustrated at the moment. He apologized and said he'll work on it. What do you think is going on? Do u think it's me?
2007-10-15 02:55:17 · 11 answers · asked by Lily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I honestly don't think it's you. You guys have been together for 6 months and now, he has nothing to prove to you. He fell into a "comfort zone". Comfort zone is exactly what he's telling you, he feels comfortable with you. And if he's telling you that it's too good, TRUST ME, it's too good for him not to hold off the orgasm. What I can suggest is role playing with him to make him last more, try playing games like teacher and student, doctor and patient, you get the idea. I went through the same exact thing you're going through and that's what I started doing, don't get me wrong, at times my fiance can slip and be done quick too but he tries, lol. Also, when he feels like he's about to explode, try switching positions or have him stop and start kissing each other. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-15 03:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Spanish Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lily,
I read all the answers you've received so far, and the one thing that seems to be missing in this subject is his health.
There could be something going on physically with him that is affecting his sexual abilities..
When was the last time he has had a physical?
Before you jump to conclusions this should be checked out.
One other thing; Attacking his ego, out of your frustration, was not a good thing!!
What he really needs is understanding and a sincere offer to help solving the problem, that is what loving, caring couples, do for each other.
Honey, don't be so quick to give up or find fault, if you really love this guy,work with him, together in love all things are possible....
2007-10-15 03:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by tobecherokee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is going on, making your bf feel like crap probably isn't the best way to resolve it, okay? You don't say how often you're bumping uglies, but if you're not doing it as often as you used to, he's gonna get there a lot faster than if it's happening more often. At least you know he's not cheating on you or playing too much five-against-one! Anyway, it sounds to me like you're relying too much on intercourse to get your jollies. Why not engage in a little more -- or a lot more! -- foreplay? If he spends some time south of the border before you knock it out, you'll likely have already had an orgasm and won't care how much time he does or doesn't take to finish off. You could ask him to masturbate before you go to bed so that he'll be less sensitive and won't get there as fast.
In short, there are many, many ways you can fix this problem, and you should only make him feel like crap if you want him to be your ex-bf.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 03:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me! I know exactly how you feel!! I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we have times where we won't have sex for 2 or 3 weeks. I've talked to his friends about it because he doesn't really open up to me and they said that it's because I make it to available for him. so now I make it seem like I don't really want to do anything and it's been working out for me :)
also if he just started a new job or something new like that he could just be tired and stressed out ..so just give him time to relax. hope this helped!
2007-10-15 03:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by roxyysurfergrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you have been together for 6 months until recently there is a drop in his standard. From a point of a guy views, he may have meet somebody else better than you in terms of sex. When he is sexually satisfied, why will he need you again.
2007-10-15 03:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you made your partner feel like crap over sex. That is so lame. It feels good but its called making love for a reason there is supposed to be love and tenderness behind it. Maybe be more understand and just work with him instead of making him feel bad
2007-10-15 03:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by sarah W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I DONT KNOW IT WOULD CHANGE IN 6 MONTHS. SOME GUYS ARE DIFFERENT I GUESS. ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 13 YEARS AND OUR SEX LIFE ISNT LIKE IT USED TO BE EITHER. USED TO BE 3-4 TIMES A DAY EVERY DAY. THEN 3-4 TIMES A WEEK,NOW ITS ONCE A WEEK. BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER,SEX AINT ALL THATS BASED ON A RELATIONSHIP.
2007-10-15 03:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by TABBYKAT34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships tend to wind down after so long. It probably isn't either of you, just the "normal routine." Time to bring back the romance-which just doesn't involve sex.
2007-10-15 03:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by marty47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honeymoon part of the relationship is OVER!
2007-10-15 03:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 months of doing it, your relationship has hit the skids, it is the same over and over again, spice it up somehow
2007-10-15 05:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋