Me and my fiance havent been getting along..all we do is fight lately so Saturday I told him to please leave and he spent the night at my wild brothers house and didnt bother to call...yesterday he called first thing and didnt admit to where he had gone his mom told me and also she told me some legal stuff hes involved in and he hasnt mentioned that to me...if i cant trust him should i allow him to come back or just move on...im not an ugly chick sooo i wont have a problem but i do still love him...should i give him another chance or not???
2007-10-15 02:08:02 · 11 answers · asked by gracey 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can you be sure you can trust him in the future if you can't trust him now. He couldn't even tell you he had legal problems...then what else is he hiding? Move on girl.
2007-10-15 02:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by typerchic34 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the 2 of you need to sit down and take a proper look at your relationship...sometimes what we think is love isn't, and then when the pressures come, we are ready to throw in the towel. Ask yourselves the pertinent questions, are we both prepared to commit to each other? are we ready to give up our very selves to make the relationship work? to go further?one may want to, the other may not want to...if you both agree that you are ready and willing to commit, then you both need to come straight with each other...a relation that has no trust is already built on an unstable foundation and may fall at any time...what must be known in the relationship must be heard from each other, not from a third party, whether family or not; you have not said how long you have been engaged, that is also a factor, men sometimes use engagement as the testing waters for whether the marriage will work, and when the doubts are there, they cannot seem to move on, women on the other hand, think engagement means we are already there (married) and may expect a lot of things which the man isn't ready to give yet, but you both must be strong to take the right decisions after soul searching, however painless or painful it may be.
2007-10-15 09:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by My Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't being honest with you right now, then your future is in trouble already. Sit down, talk to him and get everything out in the open. If you find out that there is something he hasn't confided to you in the near future, dump him and move on. There are too many people out there looking for a woman with a good heart who is faithful and loving.
2007-10-15 09:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by rrunner68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attack of the female double standard.if u didnt think enuf 2 confide in him,why are offended that he didnt confide in you?trust is a two-way street.maybe he's wondering if you're worth keeping.if the "2"of you are arguing,then he has some complaints about you.
mom should always mind her own business
2007-10-15 09:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by omegasupremebmf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it all depends on if you belivie what his mother told you or not if you belivie it than tell himyou want the truth and that it he tells you the truth youll give hima nd other chance but if you think its not true then just tell him he need to talk to his mother than because she told you that stuff.
2007-10-15 09:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weigh the pros and cons .which ones are heavier?i don't think your ready as for you stated how good you look and won't have a problem.if your were ready you would be only asking how to make this relationship better
2007-10-15 09:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by mr. y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he isn't sleeping with someone else or beating you, from my point of view, there isn't much you can't work through. My fiance and I have been through some really tough times, but it made us stronger in the end.
2007-10-15 09:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get your relationship problems and his legal problems worked out before he comes back....
2007-10-15 09:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This is not about your looks, hun...it's about your self esteem. He sounds dodgy...... get rid of him.
2007-10-15 09:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that one
2007-10-15 10:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋