I've been with my guy for 10 yrs, we have an active baby who i stay at home with all day.When he gets home i do the dinners then settle little one to bed.He then plays his xbox until 11pm & then we go bed.I feel shattered & just want to read, he is randy & wants sex.He says"Can i boink you?" & "wow your so stacked"(he's 38 not 17) & things like that, can't say it moves me to want to leap on him lol.Then when he realises im not in the mood he wants me to just sort him out & it is a bit cringy.Im not prudish, i enjoy sex, especially outdoors which he's not keen on, i just like passion & he lacks that completely.I know it takes 2 & im probably as much to blame but i want my body to be ravaged in pure , hot ,steamy passion fuelled sex.Not a "boinking" session.
Am looking forward to your replies lol
2007-10-15 01:39:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him about his choice of words. Many of those words are actually humorous and this humor could be his way of covering up his discomfort when it comes to sex. You do say he does lack passion and willingness to do fun things like have sex outdoors. Many men are brought up to believe that sex somehow disrespects women, in fact too many people in general are brought up this way, so they're a bit quiet about talking about sex with women they love.
Tell him to tell you what you want to hear as far as 'dirty talk' is concerned. Let him know exactly what it takes to get you into the mood as well. There's nothing wrong with taking an assertive role in the bedroom and it sounds like this guy needs an assertive woman! Have fun.
2007-10-15 01:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well little darling you may think you have a man in your bed but sounds more like a little boy.Who ever heard a man talk like a baby unless he was a baby.I don't know what an box is but sounds like some kind of a game, men don't sit and play games and let their lady sit out and not chat or do something with her, then go to bed and " ask to boink her"..What the hell is a boink anyways? You either need to tell him you aren't some high school girl who only wants to **** and run. That you are a woman who wants and deserves intimacy in her bedroom. and i do like that outdoor sex..damm that would be great to do. not on sand tho think sand would be all over you
and in you. LOL
2007-10-15 03:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by badgirlsbadboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Maria I would say that what has probably happened and it has been a while since I was a young father but I do feel that he probably has been neglected by you in favor of the baby for almost a year. Not your fault just your priorities when that way and his turned to the X-Box, could have been worse. Now since he lives in a world at home of a 17 year old he acts like one and has gotten use to not getting your attention and doesn't know what to do. His choice of words and lack of romantic methods show that he is not very mature and part of that might be his moving back to the 17 year old world, maybe X-Box live with other 'children'. I think a serious talk is in order and in honesty a visit to a marriage counselor would help.
2007-10-15 02:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not to blame whatsoever. I'd be really pissed off if i was you. Tell him to get rid of the xbox or you'll put a ban on sex. Would someone look after your baby while you and him go for a weekend somewhere? Sounds like you need a change from the routine. Also, sit him down and tell him that you feel like he's just using you for sex and he's selfish. Best of luck. x
2007-10-15 02:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, he has a good women but not taking advantage of it. Why dont you try ravaging him. Or give him hints, tell him you want him to just sponataneously take you with no questions asked. Maybe you have to step up in order for him to get the point and take over.
2007-10-15 01:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by daddynard1010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him about and explain that his reducing your love-making to such crude statements is NOT a turn on for you. Maybe he's a caveman who thinks that women were put on this earth to satisfay his sexual cravings. He can't respect you very much if he talks to you like that. At his age he should know better.
Maybe try to explain to him what you've typed above and then, if he improves, reward his efforts with great sex.
2007-10-15 01:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by del_icious_manager 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your man needs to discover what romance is - sex for a woman is not a mechanical thing as you know, whereas it is for a man. Less time with the x-box should be a start.
2007-10-15 02:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him if you can. I ued to be married to a man who approached sex in the same way ...............he wouldnt talk to me at all, then would come to bed and say wanna f***?..............When I said no, he would say can ya just give me a BJ.
It ended up repulsing me.......we had lots more issues than that, but we got divorced.
He just had no respect for me at all. ( married for 10 years)
Men need to realise that we are not just a switch that cant turn on with a flip.
Having said that, now 2 years on, I am with the most kind, considerate, loving man, and I am very happy...............So they arent ALLL bad! ...lol
2007-10-15 01:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha ha @ Can i boink you!!!
I just spat my fox's crinckle crunch out then laughing. Your hubby sounds a bit of a beer monster chicken.
2007-10-15 05:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your guy needs educated.
Before either "sort him out" or making love to him, I'd tell him I'll only do it if you ask properly.
Then I'd taught it some.
You know, like some king of incentive.
He either wants it badly, or he doesn't. lol!
2007-10-15 02:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋