So for all of you who threw my divorce question in my face....?

Question

My stepdad ended up getting drunk and doing some stupid things. Do you now see why I was trying to get him out of my life. He even stole my mom's car, fortunatley we got it back. Next time you answer a question take the time to think about what a person's situation might be before you open your mouth to be cocky.

Answer 1

I went back and read your first question because I just got on here. I feel for you, I think it is a shame that you are living the way that you are living. I also think that you are putting way too much stress on yourself and taking responsibility for something that you aren't responsible for. Your mother is the one who is supposed to be taking care of you, not you her. She is grown and should know right from wrong, she should be taking care of not only you but her own life. I find that when I apply the Live and Let Live principle in my life that I am much happier. It is hard to do. I think you will be happier if you just say to yourself.,..this guy is not my deal it is hers. You don't have to like him...however he is her problem and she is going to have to live with the consequences of her poor decision.....you would be happier if you lived your own life, went to school, talked to your friends and learned from your mothers mistakes on how you don't want to live your life when you are a grown up. I wouldn't try to break them up because this will only get you more into the middle of a very ugly situation....you could easily become the target of some nasty repercussions....know that you are going to be grown soon, going to college hopefully, and that you are on the way to a better life than the one you have now.

Answer 2

Alissael,
I hadn't seen your question and neither answered it, but I'm quite shock at the way you react to people's answers.
People are not in your life, they read a message, interprete it, and reply.
You can't be mad at someone for not responding the way you wanted.
The fact is, the choice of words, of punctuations, information missing or words missing, can just change a message altogether, from what it was intended to convey.
So, don't blame people for 1) taking the time to read your message. 2) giving you their opinions, you are free not to agree with 3) to give a reply which has nothing to do with the subject.
You don't have to choose a best answer;
You don't have to agree with what is being said.
You have to be smart and seeth trhough!
But, it's definitely not clever to insult people.
Some don't know you, don't care, and your roads may never cross in this lifetime.
So, try and appreciate the ones who made an effort to give you an honest answer!

Answer 3

I didn't answer the original divorce question but did go back and read it. A few pertinent details would have given you different answers.
I agree with the best answer you chose. I would add that if he is causing any type of physical harm to you or your mom, you would be smart to call the police so it is on record. I hope your mom's eyes open up soon, meanwhile keep talking to her as calmly as you can about how you feel and what you see.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear people did that,hope all is OK now?
If not then that needs to be seriously addressed in a so called family meeting with all whom live in the house put the cards on the table so to speak.Be care full I've dealt with alcoholics make sure they are sober before the family talk also let him know how when he drinks he hurts the family in a number of ways.Hope this helps I don't know the story from before.

Answer 5

If you don't like how people answer your questions then don't ask. It's that simple.

And I went back and read your question and sorry to say it but those "b!tchy" people were right. Your mother is a grown woman and it is up to her who she wants in her life; not you.

And how can we get into your situation if you don't give us all the info? All we can do is read what you write. What you want is for people to assume (which is what some did) and do you know how to spell assume? When you assume you make an "a s s" out of "u" and "m e".

If you want him out of your life and she doesn't then you either grow up and deal with him or you cut both of them out of your life.

Answer 6

I don't recall seeing your question and from what I see in some answers I would have to agree.
I always try to focus on the question and put things into
perspective b4 I answer them.
To repost question would be a good idea, you may actually
have more support than you think.
Ignore the narrow minded people and lend an ear to those
who take the time to give honest answers.

Answer 7

If you're going to come on here and essentially ask, "How can I make my parents get a divorce?" and also provide no details whatsoever, of course you're going to get people coming down against you. Divorce is a big deal and most people don't believe it should be done without very important reasons. You provided NO reasons in that question. This was not a case of people giving you bad answers -- it was a case of you presenting a badly written question!

Answer 8

I just went back and read your previous question to see what you were talking about, and I have two things to say. 1. Your mom is a grown woman who can and will decided the fate of her own relationship. It is by no means your right or responsiblity to try and break them up. 2. You sound like a child when you complain because you dont get the answer you want

Answer 9

I didn't see your questions before.
Seriously though, you might want to throw in a question somewhere or someone's gonna violate you for ranting. People are wickedly rude like that.
Your step-dad sounds like a loser, but getting him out of your life is your mom's job.

Answer 10

I do not doubt this guy may be unpleasant, I'm sure he is. But ultimately it is up to your mother to decide when the relationship ends - not you.

All you can do is try to comfort your mother when needed. This marriage will end, it's just a matter of time.