What age is too young to be.....?

Question

1 - Married
2 - Pregnant?

1 married
2 pregnant

OK some comments are talking about commitment so........ What if instead of getting married or pregnant, you and your partner get a joint mortgage, does that make a difference?

Answer 1

Even though this is a very sensitive question there are many ways of approaching it... Well to be honest I would say the marriage should wait until you are 25. And to get pragnant should wait until you are 30-35 although there are many perspectives on questions like this one. I can say that I am 19 years old and I got married on July 12th, 2007. And found out in September that my husband and I were expecting. although I have been told that I am very mature for my age. I do know that I planned my life a little early. I felt as if I was in deep love and that I was going to live happily ever after... LOL sure that is a little true I love my husband to the day I die but we are still young. And finding out having a child and so forth isnt the perfect step, but we have accepted it and cant wait to hold our little bundle of joy. We are using our experiance at life to use to raise our child.I work as a marketing director for an asset recovery company and working towards my degree in teaching. While my husband is off for the Army. We currently own our own home and both have our own vehicles. So for two 19 year olds we are doing really well... But its all based apon how you handle the situation... Most 15-20 year olds dont care to take the time to say that well hey we need to grow up... Your child doesnt need a friend. Your child needs a parent and a friend. You just really need to know your place.

Answer 2

I have been married for 13 years and we have 4 kids. I had my first at age 19, and my last at age 34. Speaking with experience, I was much more ready for kids with my second child, at age 27. I also, at age 19 with a child, never had a chance to be me and take time to establish a good career. I am still trying to get back to finish collegs. Our jobs pay the bills, and we have a house and 2 cars, but its hard to find extra money. My husband and I never had time to just be us, and we are just now starting to go out and have fun, now that my oldest is 16. It is also hard to be 35 and have a daughter that is a few years away from graduating high school!! I also wish people, when they wanted to get married, could have a class offered to them on the financial responsibilities, like mortgages, medical crisises, cars, etc. Having kids and getting married young is ok, but its hard to be ready to take on the financial responsibilities involved, its hard to get ahead.

So what age is too young for marriage or pregnancy? Id say under 21, you should at least be over 21, and Id recommend 25, so you can get out and enjoy being young and single. You can be married and be a parent for the rest of your life!!!!

Answer 3

Hey

There is no age limit when you feel ready enough to do both these things.

When i say ready i dont mean some 14 year old girl who thinks shes in love and whats to marry her 20 year old boyfriend.

I mean when you financialy able because its not just getting married its buying a house etc... and getting pregnant is having a BABY a CHILD which will rely on you for food warmth comfort.

Having a partner you love obvioulsly is a plus side but really there is no too old too young its just finding the right time in your life that you can do these things.

Take care and good luck.

Answer 4

Got married at 19 to a wonderful man i was with for four years. Everyone still looks at me as if i am speaking a different language anytime i tell them i am married and constantly being told i am missing out on life. At the end of the day the marriage cert is just a piece of paper, it's your relationship that matters. I could never understand what age has to do with it. My parents also married at 19 and have been together for 35 years!
I am now 22 and 29 weeks pregnant (planned) and couldn't be happier!
It all depends on the people involved and their maturity and ability to deal with whatever comes their way.

Answer 5

theres no right or wrong age and its pathetic for people to pick an age and say thats too young or thats too old, its not fair to judge people purely on the way they live their own lifes. ive never been one to look down on young mums as some people do, i admire them infact. but ive always believed you should wait to have a baby until you are financially secure and not before, in a good relationship (marriage isnt important for those who say you should be married first) and have accomodation. until you can provide these things you just arent ready, it doesnt mean youre too young though. i think personally you should wait until you have finished compulsary education first, as its quite selfish to have a baby while you are still in school and cant devote all your time and attention on the baby. but those who have and cope well get my respect. as for marriage ive never been a big believer in that its necessary. its a nice idea and i would like to get married one day but its not important to me and i dont care if i wasnt to. being with someone you love is the main thing not the piece of paper you have just signed your name on. when you have been in a long term relationship with someone and know you want to spend the rest of your life with them, this is a sure sign youre ready for the commitment and nobody should stop you if this what you want. whether youre 18 or 30. age isnt the way of seeing if the marriage will last, my parents married at 20 and 18 years later they still are. whereas my aunt married at 25 and was divorced a year later. if you feel ready to settle down and you know you wont ever regret it, then go for it and dont let anyone stop you or make you feel bad about your own choices. good luck.

Answer 6

I got married at 22 am now 23 and pregnant my hubby has just turn 27. we both have good jobs and own our house but only now do i feel the right age to start a family and be married even though me and my hubby have been together four years before I was 20 there was no way I could of had a baby I just wouldnt of be mature enough as I loved going out having a great time with my mates every night.

Answer 7

All these people saying under 25 is too young.I am 23 Married and with my first baby on the way.I have a degree and a career,and earn enough money to support a family.My partner and I have been together since forever and are still very much in love. Am I still to young ?I have had a very fulfilling life so far and do not plan to stop now.

Answer 8

I am 23, I have been married to my wonderful husband for 4 months now and we are 8 weeks pregnant because we want to be, I certainly don't feel too young, I feel ready. Hes 30, and frankly I didn't want to wait until we were any older because of birth defects increase, and my mother has breast cancer and the earlier you have a child the better your chances are not to have breast cancer. I think its a personal choice on when to get married and have a baby. I met my soul mate and there was no reason for me to wait any longer to start our lives together.

Answer 9

There is no definate age but its the rest of your life.
I am a strong believer in having your twenties to yourself to travel the world, meet lots of people and then finally when you have lived your life to the fullest then settle down in your thirties.
Seriously - don't get married or pregnant to early. There is no rush for it. Travel the world first do things for yourself before you think about marriage or pregnancy.
Too young - is when you don't know the right age.

Answer 10

I got married at 25, And the looks you get when you tell people you are married! "your too young"they say. So are only people in their 30`s 40`s allright to get married?
I say you know when It`s right. Any age over 20 is fine as you`ve at least learned what it is to be adult (Money, bills, cars,house/flat etc)

As to pregnant I don`t even know! I keep putting it off, 30 is my Must get plan in action stage though! ( 30`s & older you can have complications)

This is just my own opinion though, I would never force it on others!