I was dealt a crappy hand in life and want to start over. I have Multiple Sclerosis. No fair!!! UGH!!!!!
2007-10-14 22:36:33 · 11 answers · asked by upright n breathin 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
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2007-10-14 22:37:47 · update #1
Having a disability is never "fair"--believe me, I know (I am blind). You have to learn to let go of that-focus on the tings you can do.
Different people deal with this diffent ways. For me--I find things that are challenges--ad do them. Some little things, some big. I've learned totravel--alone when need be--all over the US. My next project is learning to scuba dive.
Is your situation good? Fair? No. And its not a "blessing" the way some well,-meaning fools try to convince themselves. But you can have a good life. You are the one who makes that choice--and no oe can take that choice from you--or make it for you.
The point--you take charge of your own life--every day. The only real disability is letting the rest of the world convince you you can't do that.
2007-10-15 05:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, I do know how you feel.
I had a stroke at 29.
It took me a year to get over the "no fair!"
and the "poor me!"
During which time I almost doubled my body weight by eating my head off.
Now, 5 yrs later, I have accomplished some things which even some able-bodied
can't do,I've lost most of the weight, but I can't help thinking how much more I could have done if I hadn't wasted so much time...
But I'm not going to waste time worrying about wasted time, now am I?
At least your condition progresses VERY slowly, whereas sclerodermia( which is a related disease to Multiple Sclerosis) took one of my friends in about one short year.
I watched her waste before my very eyes, she died a couple of months ago, weighing about 50 pounds. She was 39, and I realized just how lucky I really am.
God bless you ÎγγÎλικη, wherever you may be.
2007-10-15 07:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was attacked and killed by a friend of the family I went to the other side and was told I had to come back. I didn't want to come back but had to. this happened when I was 5. he told some lie and I buried the memory. I have a moderate brain injury from it. I grew up with no help. it has been very hard. but it has taught me to never give up, my glass is always over flowing. when a block in my brain, or body comes up I figure a way around it. this attitude has gotten me farther in life then if I never would have had the brain injury. I am a sucessful medical coder, artist and inventer. never once did I say that it was no fair. that is a give up attitude, I keep fighting. to be a winner in life the only advantage you need to have is the never give up, always fighting attitude. don't whine about it not being fair. get up and fight for what you want in life. I can't run, or dance because I will fall down. big deal. I will do something else. I can't stand anyone who whines about anything not being fair and not doing a thing to improve their lives. I did it so can you. I hope I made you mad enough to do something to help yourself. agreeing with you and saying I am sorry doesn't help you one bit. getting you to think of a way to get out of the blues does.
2007-10-15 21:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by laniechrysler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie none of us were prepared, no one told us what was coming, perhaps this is why we ARENT born with a crystal ball, we would just say "crap" and quit right there and miss all the good stuff that came before, and the good stuff that can still come along.
We wont be climbing any mountains, or running marathons thats for sure, but there is still "stuff". We just have to look a little harder, dream smaller dreams, go a little slower, but you aint dead yet - so start working on that.
Someone told me once that my worst disability, the one that had the most negative affect on me was being too darn proud to ask for help. They were right, since I started asking things have gotten slightly better for me.
I understand how you feel, and for all of us, damn I am sorry we are all in this rocky boat - :-(
2007-10-15 16:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't think these little ones you see at Saint Jude Hospital or with Jerry Lewis were quite ready for it either but we take what we get. Life is not fair. Not since Adam and Eve disobeyed God. My Grandson could not even read when they told us he has M.D. He has learned to live with it. I've never heard him say "No Fair !" though.
2007-10-15 18:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ava 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me too! But I'm not doing that bad. I'm tired a lot and have a dang hand tremor that gets in the way, but I'm not progressing (even after 9 years) and things ain't that bad for me.
2007-10-15 11:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was not ready for the hand that i was dealt, but trying to make lemonade from the lemons, making the lemonad is just not working right now. i'll keep trying good luck
2007-10-15 18:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by c504play 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do start over every day,you may have MS but you also have a gift that can be shared with many,think about it.
2007-10-15 23:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by cedar_ridge2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thought MS came from too much stress. Can you decrease your stress and get out of it?
2007-10-15 22:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am still not ready ,but am glad to be alive at all
2007-10-15 20:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by mary s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋