Me and my friend booked a flight only to Italy for this weekend just gone. The transport to the airport was not organised nor was anything once we got there.
Now I always end up organising because shes not pro active at all, but shes a friend and I care for her. I am always there listening to her problems (phone and face to face) and she barely listens to mine.
My cousin died last week and its the anniversary of the death of my sister coming up so Im having personal problems too.
Now on Friday she text me saying 'when are you coming down tomorrow?' I gnored this text and we ended up not goint to Italy.
She then text me last night saying 'am disgusted in the way you did this...you know what ive been going through past few days. Never again''
But she NEVER takes my life into consideration.
Was what I did, wrong? Please help. Thank you in advance.
2007-10-14 22:35:14 · 15 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
you can never figure out a woman
2007-10-14 22:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by never_rested 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry friendship is a two way thing. You need their support as much as they need yours. Being at a time when your cousin has only just died and a year since your sister died, she should be coming to you not the other way round.
She should have realised there was something wrong when you ended up paying for Italy and not going.
It is give and take not take take take. She needs to be told - tell her straight. I am sure you must have more friends out there. A good friend is always there for you whatever the time or day. Good luck with this one. Tell her.
2007-10-14 23:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sherbert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, YOU just lost someone a week ago? This is the anniversary of your sisters death? What has she been going through? I would tell her to get a grip on reality, she took no role in organizing how DARE she get mad at you for not having all the ducks in a row, what does she think you are a mind reader??? You tell her, BYOTCH!!! YOU NEVER TAKE MY LIFE INTO CONSIDERATION...and you write HER OFF!!! Sounds like she needs the wake up plan...pronto. Take Care hun. Dont sweat it. VERY sad that she could stress on you like that. After all it isnt an easy thing planning a trip to ITALY on a spur of the moment!!! shes an A&& hole.
2007-10-14 22:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bravo I say, who the hell does she think she is to bombard you with her life's problems yet never listen to you or yours, of course shes not organised at doing anything with you around, your the silly beggar who does that for her, she sounds like an emotion vampire to me, sucks the hope and energy out of you then throws it back in your face, sorry but if she really is a friend she needs to take a good look at herself in the mirror and see there are other people with feelings in her life, I had those sort of friends myself until 2 years ago, better off without them and I can honestly say my life is richer for it too.
2007-10-14 23:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didn't explain what was going on in your life you just assumed she should know, which she should have done if she has any interest in anyone except herself. Personally i think she sounds like a very selfish, self centered person, who wants people to listen to her and feel sorry for her, solve her problems etc, but she gives nothing back. Keep ignoring her until she actually comes to see you(if she bothers) and then talk it all through, if she still can't understand kick her to the kerb
2007-10-14 22:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most friends share their problems,sounds to me like your both a little selfish and assuming,but that aside,Just tell her how you feel instead of ignoring her or her problems,which accomplishes nothing but hardship between you...Remind her of the fact you have problems to deal with as well and would appreciate some support from her now n then too,If this cannot be done on both your parts I'd re-evaluate the friendship..=)
2007-10-14 22:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you should tell her how you feel about this! She might not know what the problem is! Tell her! The way you wrote it here!
Show her, that you have your own life as well! You care about her, but she must understand that you won't do everything exactly according to her only! It's YOUR life!
2007-10-14 22:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Chickoon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U r right on your way. She should understand it that u have got some problem. Even the same things happens with me a lot. So now i have stopped giving importance to her.
2007-10-14 22:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend like that, always has a go at me- tries to control what i do,im always in the wrong and she never sees if its her fault. a few weeks ago i stood up for myself and have continued to do so,she didnt like it and still kept blaming me for everything. now we dont see eachother as much but i cant be asked with it anymore. sounds like ur fed up too,u havent done anything wrong- if she cant realise ur hurt,pain,problems then she isnt a true friend.
xxx
2007-10-14 22:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Honeybee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends are going to disappoint you all your life, that's why I only see mine about 6 times a year max........... Invest your time and energy into people that you know will be there for you allot longer like family or partners.
2007-10-14 22:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kenny K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did she know about this in the first place? If she doesn't, you should tell her, but if she does, that's her problem for not understanding you. If you still want to maintain this friendship, you should communicate with her and tell her about that incident and she might understand you and forgive you, if she still thinks you are wrong, you can just blame her for egoistical.
2007-10-14 22:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by ~Sieg~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋