There had been some issues with my on and off girl freind, but we still seem to have a connection which basicly gets me confused as to where we are heading..i had stayed the longest without seeing her which was more than 7 months and one thing lead to another and we had se x, due to too much friction the c odom ripped and basically its like unprotected s ex... I offered to take her to the chemist and buy some p2 pills which is for birth control and she said she has them at her apartment... i trusted her and know she called me after a week and sayed that she didn’t which is totally intentional shes mature enough 19 yrs old, if it comes to worse and gives birth and i do not accept to help her raise the baby will i be a bad person ????????
2007-10-14 20:27:40 · 9 answers · asked by Shiden 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well you tried to be responsible on 2 occasions, 1 with the condom, 2 with the morning after pill. But I think if she has your baby then you should help raise it even though you were clear about not wanting kids, this isn't your baby's fault and it shouldn't have to suffer for her selfishness so at the very least pay child support. You may even find the baby to be a blessing in disguise and may grow to love your child very much.
2007-10-14 22:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? However you feel about the girl it takes 2 to make a baby and its not fair for a child to grow up without a father. Think a few years down the line, you may have some questions to answer to that child and if you have a family with someone else are you gonna hide it.
You haven't said that she is definetly pregnant so hopefully you are worrying about nothing and will just need to put it down to experience.
Either way how would you have felt if your dad abandoned you as a child because basically the condom split and you were a mistake?
2007-10-14 23:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by emma157 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well same on her for not takin that pill. But it is ur decision if u want to be in the baby's life. If u choose not to be prepared to pay child support for the baby for 18 years. But if the child graduates High school and goes to college than u'll have to pay child support until he/she gets out of school. But it's ur decision. But the child does deserve to know it's real father and it deserves to get to know his father. If u have nothing to do with the child and don't get to know him/her and never meet him/her than alot of us would call u a dead beat dad.
2007-10-14 20:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well be in the kid's life.You're gonna pay for it anyways.That's like buying a house and never living in it.Besides.Do you really want to wonder how many jerks will be in this kid's life pretending to be papa just to get into her pants?But if you don't care,just haul *** to another country and hide.Next time,double up or keep it in your pants if you don't want a kid.
2007-10-14 20:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, aside from the moral dilemma, I hope you know that you will be legally obligated to pay child support and contribute to the financial upbringing of the child.
2007-10-14 20:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by batteriesAAA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of whether or not she lied about taking the pills, if she comes up pregnant and that baby is yours, you are responsible for it. i would ask for a paternity test if she comes up pregnant because it sounds like she might be trying to pull one over on you since have only been seeing her on and off. if it comes out to be your baby, then you really need to take care of it. I would make sure your "girlfriend" is clear though that you are in your child's life, and not hers, because it sounds like she might be manipulative.
2007-10-14 20:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
look at it like this- she may be crazy but that kid didnt do anything wrong nor did it ask to be born to a loony. maybe you would be the only sane parent that child would have. you should stick around- yes, but you dont have to. boys run away all the time. be a man.
2007-10-14 20:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by kelly n 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your life buddy and you can live it the way you want. After you offered to help her and she says she could handle it is her responsibility now. Don't let society guilt trip you into messing your life up do what you want. Anyhow I would'nt worry about it until the girl is actually pregnant, if she is it's her own damn fault.
2007-10-14 20:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff L 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds like you arent but ever hear of a peterenty test . my opion?
2007-10-14 20:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋