How do you react when someone offends you?

Question

Knowingly and unknowingly.

Lioness: My heroine! :-)
No, but I'll let you know if some *** whoopin' is in session, he he.

Lioness: My heroine! :-)
No, but I'll let you know if some as* whoopin' is in session, he he.

Oops, came out twice.

He he, some of these answers are pretty funny.

Dino Chrome: That was both informative and hilarious.

DoubtingTom: This question came up when I answered it in Y!R (Spanish version of Y!A) and I think you've asked it as well, and I've answered, but here goes:
1) I will ignore the person, as he/she is entitled to think whatever they wish to think of me. If I believe they need clarification, I will provide it, if not, I continue to ignore.
2) I laugh and reply with some smart-as* comment. Sometimes, some people will say the most ridiculous things that are simply comical.

Answer 1

I focus on two sides of my personality.

The kneejerk side and the pensive thoughtful side .

Sometimes understanding is the better course of action . i work in customer service .

However you cannot just be a doormat .
if i have to fight back i let the kneejerk response come in aprove it or edit it mentally and let it fly if the situation warrants it .

I find sometimes going into Mr Spock mode works wonders . I raise my testosterone powered deflector sheilds and run sensor scans ,all the while being emotionless as possible .

I let them spout off at me reacting not at all , while looking at them .

I usaly will let the 1rst insult go unchallenged .Depending on why they offended me i might let number two disapate on my sheilds of testosterone . When there prepping the 3rd i rip into them with what ever i can .

Now on the board . it is a bit different here becuase writing never carries the same emotional context as speaking does and never will . It is all too easy to get offended here in this room far too easily .

I do employ the same steps i usaly do but i have much more time to evaluate what is going on before i respond .

All in all i think most people if they get offended should ask if the other party meant to insult them . That would be especially useful in this room .

Answer 2

The majority of the time the person either A. didn't know he/she offended you or B. felt insecure about something and felt the need to put you down/offend you. The best way to deal with both is to call them on it, explain that it was offensive and ask for an explanation. This will take care of either cause. In case A. the person will know what he/she did and take care of it. In case B., calling the person on their action, will put them on the defensive, having to explain him/herself, and you'll be in control of the situation--the power shift will not only make you feel better, but will have the opposite effect for the person who initially tried to offend you.

All logical reasoning and intellectual bullshi.tting aside, do I need to take care of some people? LOL

EDIT: Sorry, I didn't really answer the question about how I really react. I get pis.sed off deep inside but keep my cool, I can't let them see me sweat it, but at the same time I have to make sure they know my boundaries are clear and I won't take sh.it.

Answer 3

I usually walk away. I am a large physical presence and have the ability to injure with words as well but I tend to leave the angry and unhappy alone to marinate in their own misery.

Answer 4

Very slowly, to first determine their intent (wise of you to word it thusly). If it's unknowingly i tend to let it slide. If it's intentional I try to figure the motivation first, then argue me case a bit. If they remain unreceptive I drop it.
It's a coping skill I've had to adopt especially as a DJ who has to put up with a lot of drunken people.

Answer 5

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Just ignore that person as if he didn't exist.

I prefer to act Lord Buddha: When some one went on insulting Him without end, he asked that person, 'If you offer something to someone & if that someone doesn't accept it, who would that something would be with?"

If we don't react the one who wants to hurt us, the offender alone will have reasons to get offended & ashamed!

Let's be thus merciful even to our offenders. Why hurt him / her back?

What do you say, Katiana?
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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Knowingly- stand my ground and ask them why they said or did what they did?

Unknowingly- perhaps overlook it, or pull that person aside and discuss what was said to help them understand

Answer 8

let it slide unless its a stranger then i let them have it. I can't stand it when strangers feel the need to judge you or pass comment about you as they walk by!

Answer 9

Sometimes I get angry and show it. Other times I can analyze the source and take it in stride.

Answer 10

I either say thank you if I'm in a good mood, insult them if I'm in a bad mood, or just say ok whatever.