my friend smokes and wont listen to me.?

Question

One of her stupid friends got her into smoking and getting drunk every once in a while. She'salways telling me stories about it like "you don't understand it makes you feel good" and i tell her she is a living example of what morons would say. She keeps calling me a wimp because i dont join her and her stupid friends. I've known her my whole life and no matter what i say she wont stop. She thinks there is nothing harmful to smoking and drinking a whole bottle of tequila every week.
help!?!?

Answer 1

a bottle of tequilla every week? ha!

i once saw my cousin drink a bottle in one night... eat the worm... and eat an eigth of shrooms! his pupils were completely BLACK!!! he was also feeling good... fun night...

Answer 2

Tell her she is going down a road that no one ever fully completes without tragedy. Smoking is an addictiong so it is too late for that. The drinking at least there is still help for, but she will have to want to help herself. Be there for her that is all you can do. If she calls you a wimp for not joining her do not think to much into it. She is having fun and thinks that is the only way now.

Answer 3

It's her decision if she wants to smoke it... you can't force someone to do something because that's what YOU want. It sounds as though you're feeling guilty about the break up, and that's the reason you want her to stop...BUT you aren't responsible for this girls wellbeing. It is her decision, and you can only be there as a friend for when she needs you. You can't do much about this situation, but explain your concerns to her, and help her realise that there are more important things to life then that. If she doesn't listen, then it's her life choice, not yours!

Answer 4

You don't state how old your friend is. If she is a minor then her parents should be informed of her dangerous behavior. If both of you are minors, then tell your mother or father of your concerns about your friend and ask them to tell her parents. Underage smoking and drinking is just a step away from getting involved in drugs.

Don't waste time, your friend is treading on thin ice that has already begun to crack. She may get mad with you but at least you can say you tried.

You are to be commended for the good choices you are making and not giving in to peer pressure.

Answer 5

Try to contact your local rehab center and see if they have a transportation system. Then, get the police involved. Ask them to both come to her house and you show up at hte same time. She won't want to, but you'll have to do it, before she goes and does something stupid. My friend killed herself on drugs in 3 years. Another friend killed herself on smoking and drinking after 3 weeks. Some boys decided it was time for payback. So, after she had gotten drunk, he took her to a bridge and convinced her that she would slide down tre edge, but it'd be fun to play in those rocks under the bridge. So, he said the only way was to jump off. She said okay. And jumped to her death. Don't let your friend die. Try and do that. NO matter how old you are.

Answer 6

I wouldn't respond. I would just refuse the offer every time and let your friend do what they want every time. Just say "you're right" every time they call you a wimp and eventually one of two things will happen. She will split off into the party crowd, rarely to be seen by you again, which she will ultimately regret, or she will realize how stupid partying is after getting sick a couple of times and be out of that phase. You can't make that call. It's all on her.

Answer 7

If she has not listened to you yet, stop trying. The more you try the farther she will distance herself from you, eventually dissolving the friendship, So stay a friend, shut up about smoking and drinking. Just do not let yourself get hooked. Ask other friends and acquaintances to give a brief encouragement to stop. If enough pound she may eventually "crack".

Answer 8

I urge you taking her to visit the Hospital and see the patients who has problem with smoking. Your friend will see a patient who has a hole in her next and carries oxygen at all time. Meanwhile, take her to join an AAA group for one meeting. Both trip will open her eyes and may be you can turn her life around. Good luck.

Answer 9

A person like that won't be a good friend for you. Don't hang out or talk to people like them much, but do be kind and respectful whenever they talk to you. And of course, it's great that you chose not to smoke.

Don't try to stop your friends from smoking, because they won't. It's the body's addiction to nicotine that's influencing their way of thinking and their attitude, not they themselves. I'm sorry, but you can't do anything about this issue. Let them be and just stay away from alcohol and cigarettes . . . and from them, too.

Answer 10

I am sure she knows that what she is doing is harmful. right now she just doesn't care because she is having a good time. hopefully it is just a phase she is going through and does stop before she becomes an alcholic and becomes addicted to nicotene. Any addiction is extremely hard to stop. there is nothing you can do to get her to stop, she has to do it when she is ready. Tell her one more time that you care about her and what she is doing to herself is wrong. after that leave her alone or she will not want to be friends with you anymore.

Answer 11

Unfortunately, most people wont quit until they are ready to quit, and people telling them to quit only makes them not want to quit even more.

So i would just isolate yourself from her when she smokes. Tell her its something you dont want to be around. Eventually she will grow up and quit or you'll have to decide if you'll tolerate it our not.

Believe me, when i see a doc and respiratory therapist go smoke after performing a bronchoscopy (sticking a camera into the lungs to look around and take samples) on someone who has lung cancer from smoking, some people just dont get it.