MY roomate is too controlling..What should I do about it?

Question

My rommate always bitches about me smoking and tells me what to do...He complains about me smoking and I never do it in the room. He tells me to do my homework and im not even in his classes..why does it concern him?Hes like trying to be my father or something..what should i do?

Answer 1

The smoking I can understand, because to nonsmokers, being around a smoker can be almost unbearable. On homework, talk to him at a time when he isn't bugging you, so that it doesn't come across as an excuse. Tell him that you appreciate that wants to help you, but that when he tells you to do homework, it feels like he is trying to be a parent, and you are now an adult and he is not your parent.

Answer 2

Open a can on him and tell him to mind his own business!

I don't know how long you've been roommates, but I can tell you that it takes a while for young people to realize that the world doesn't revolve around them and that there are other people in the world who are perfectly fine being independent and everyone was raised differently so they have their own sets of values and habits and so on. You could either do as I said above or talk to him about it in a sincere way and just explain that it's not his place to control you.

Answer 3

even though you dont smoke in the room, you more than likely smell very stongly of smoke, along with all of your other belongins. As someone who doesn't smoke but who has lived with a smoker most of my life, i never realized that everything smells until i moved out. now i can't stand the smel of smoke. perhaps this is the problem for your roommate. as for him telling you to do your homework, perhaps he just wants to you do good in school because he actually cares about you. perhaps thats why he doesn't like you smoking.

Answer 4

Ask him if he wants to be your father. Tell him you have your own life., and yes you will make mistakes along the way. But if will your mistakes. If he doesn't like u smoking. Then tell him to go somewhere else. R was u there first r was he ? Ask him to respect your way of life. u don't tell him what to do, so why should he tell u what to do.

Answer 5

Just tell him to mind his own business. Obviously what you do apart should have no bearing on situations. If it's stuff inside the room, then obviously he has a say since he lives there too. But with the stuff that you mentioned, just tell him what you think.

Answer 6

There are several things you can do:

Talk to him(im sure you have tried this)
Talk to an RA
Talk to the hall director

I would try those. And "fighting" with a room mate is typically normal.

Answer 7

Talk to him about your concerns, maybe he doesn't know it is getting to you, if that doesn't work:

1.)If you are in a dorm, voice your concerns to whoever is in charge and see if you can get a new roommate.

2.)If it's an appartment, start looking for a new place, I'm sure lots of people are looking for roomates.

Good luck

Answer 8

as far as smoking goes you shouldn't smoke in your dorm at all, just take it out side (secondhand smoke). As far as the homework goes, he needs to mind his own business, since it doesn't effect his grades.

Answer 9

That's really a bad thing. You can tell your roommate that he has two choice.One is that Don't bother you anymore; the second is that you will move out.

Answer 10

tell him you don't appriciate it. explain it to him just like you did in your question... your smoking shouldn't concern him if you're not in the house. you're study habbits are your own business. don't worry about telling him how you feel, it's your right to smoke or not and deal with your own hw.

you pay rent just like he does!!