my life is falling apart, and i dont know what to do?

Question

Recently, I've been feeling that everything is falling out from under me, and I have nothing to grab on to. I don't know what to do. My life makes absolutely no sense and I have no one to lean to. I need help.

I didn't mean to post it here. sorry. but could you please help anyway?

I have not forgotten that God is there. But He isn't the choice friend that can talk back and reassure me.

I am fifteen and both of my parents died almost four years ago. So there's no one i can really talk to. I do have sister and two brothers. But its different with my siblings. My aunt has throat cancer and my cousings are feelin really, bad right now. I don't really have any close, true friends. And I just don't know what I'm supposed to do.

Answer 1

I am so sorry in the loss of both of your parents. I can't even begin to imagine the ache that must be with you. And with your other family members suffering from cancer, it's no wonder why you are feeling as though everything is happening at once. I certainly agree with the other postees that have suggested talking with your school counselor about all that is going on and about your parents. Perhaps your aunt that is presently sick is bringing back old feelings of worrying about losing someone that you love. Please do talk with an adult that you trust such as the counselor at school, school nurse or teacher.

You shouldn't have to deal with this alone and you are not alone in your pain. Perhaps there is a support group nearby for those that are grieving the loss of a parent which would include both parents and/or a support group for those with a relative dealing with cancer. Your school counselor should be able to provide you with some information and referrals to help you cope with all of this. The local (not to try to depress you) hospice (for those that are terminally ill and have a prognosis that they will not get better) program may offer such support groups. Perhaps you can eventually consider joining in an afterschool activity or two such as the community service club or theatre workshop and that can perhaps help you to get more social contacts, friends.

And on another note, please do Not self-medicate especially with something like inhalants ('huffing'/inhaling fumes) which can destroy the brain tissue and bone marrow (the fatty inner lining of the bones that cushions joints and makes blood cells) as well as other organ damage or even cause death. A friend has a traumatic brain injury/tbi from huffing at age 12, now in her 30's. For more info on the dangers of huffing: www.inhalants.org (And please don't try 'the choking game' as it can cause a stroke/'brain attack' or even death as well.) Please take good care.

Answer 2

Please see your school counselor right away. The "Best Answer" you picked for an earlier question advised you to do the same thing and you didn't say whether you have tried that yet. You must reach out to professional adults who are there to help you. Tell the counselor that you need to find some program that can pair you up with someone you CAN lean on, like a "Big Sisters" program.

Answer 3

Something that may help a little until you get to the school counselor or some such:

Take a sheet of paper and write down at least 10 things you are thankful for today and why you are thankful for them. DO NOT include any negative ideas or comments on the sheet. Try to avoid even thinking negative things as you do this.

Answer 4

You forgot that you have God to talk to. He is always listening and he is everywhere. He is there for you and He said "ask and you shall receive"; so ask Him to guide you through the tough times and believe in Him. Talk to him like you would talk to your best friend and ask him to show you the right way. You'll be amazed at how your life will turn right around when you believe. But just remember this, you also have to be willing to help yourself. Don't let life slip you by, it's too short not to try. You'll see your ability is wide with God there by your side.

Answer 5

Sounds like you need to speak to a therapist or a psychiatrist.
From the wording of your question, I am assuming you are a minor. I suggest you talk to a school counselor.
You have really not given us enough information to offer any real advice.

Answer 6

Go see a doctor about depression. Reach out to a friend, even if you havnt talked in along time, because if any of my friends I havnt talked to in years called me and told me that, I would be there for them. If you really dont have anyone to talk to, you can send me a message if you need to talk. good luck

Answer 7

The obvious response is to obtain professional assistance. Either have your doctor give you a reference, or, if that is impossible, contact your local community social service agency where fees are low or non existent.

Answer 8

You sound like a young girl, try to see if there is a Youth Helpline in your district.
I hope there are more people who reach out to you with love and support, and better answers.

(((hugs)))

Answer 9

hey, i feel like we're on the same track . . . i said goodbye to my job . . . i feel like i just want to stay in my room . . .alone . . . i just want to be with myself . . . but i still remember when i was first rejected, you know what i did? i knew nobody would help me except me. . . so i treat myself as if i am the most special person in my life. . . i buy new dresses, i went on fine dining. . . i visited tourist spots . . . yeh, still i'm alone. . . . but i feel better about myself . . now i'm in the same scenario because of indirect rejection. i feel like alone again . . . but i always believe, i can do better now. i just can't let others decide on what i'm going to act next. . . . I AM DECIDING TO REDEEM MYSELF . . . i assure you, i could be cheerful again . . .

Answer 10

I know who you feel. you just need someone to talk to. Have you tryed to talk to your doctor. I know they dont understand because they think your life is peashie