my son went on a trip with a club (DECA) and i had made a deal with him that he had to have Cs or better and he had a D but proceeded on the trip and lied about the D when he got back How should i punish him for this? Thank you
2007-10-14 16:59:40 · 27 answers · asked by a_l_a_n_6_6_5_0 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ground him for two events.
2007-10-14 17:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by cousins 4ever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think I would punish him necessarily but make him understand that he is getting a pass on this because of your good nature, and that his good grades are as important to you as going to that trip was for him. The fact that you do not punish him may motivate him more than any punishment would in an effort to show you that he can do that.
One thing that may help him in school that I have recommended to others many times - they all thank me- is to get some DMAE from a health food store. This is a natural substance with no side effects but it does help concentration and memory. You simply put a few drops in a glass of water or juice and drink that - they say that fish makes you smarter and this is the essence of the fish that does that.
Perhaps with this and a bit of study you can say B or better next year.
2007-10-15 00:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for sure that he had a D and lied about it? It is sometimes possible that he had a C but a test or a paper was graded and turned it into a D either during or right after the trip. If you know for a fact that he lied, I would make him sit down and have all of his homework done and looked over by you before he gets to watch any TV or play Video games or sit on the computer. This way he learns that his education is the most important thing, and if he doesn't get good grades he doesn't get to play around.
2007-10-15 00:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd punish for lying to me. Thats the first. T.E.A.S.P.O.T. (Take everything away for a short period of time.) We have a list of consequences for things in my house. Lying to mom is at least 3 days. Nothing but a book. NO electronic, no phones, no friends, no nothing but school, and home.
Important is to find out how the D happened. If he's trying hardest he can, and still failing, then you need to address that problem, and not make it a bigger mess of failure.
You have to make that call, because you know him the best.
2007-10-15 00:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by almondsarenuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has an ipod or a computer, take away the ipod for a month ( or as long as you want!) or limit computer access. or if he drives, take away his license or his keys for a couple weeks. the punishment really depends on how serious you think this is. I might just be old fashioned but i think first getting a D is bad, but he also lied to you and went on a trip you specifically told him not to go on if he got a D.
2007-10-15 00:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by chery_red_chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all it would be nice to know how old he is, so we can advise of the right punishment. In the past, with my teenager, I have taken EVERYTHING except her bed and clothes out of her room, and not given her anything back until the grades came up. No tv, no phone, no computer, no friends and no cell phones. This works every time for me. To include attitude problems. She is now 17. No slapping needed.
2007-10-15 00:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont rush into punishing ur son, ask him the reason for such kind of act and kindly tell him tht he is grounded for doing such an act and make him explain the reason behind this orelse he would rebel and start dettaching from you.
2007-10-15 00:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the directors of the club, his counselor and the teacher of the class he got a D in and disscuss how he can better his grades.
Make sure he is present.
That should be punishment enough.
2007-10-15 00:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by blueorchid_chic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take somethin he likes from him but if this is really bad ground him for a month AND take all his video games from him
=P
and also learn how to spell "punish" LOL
o so its a grade? well justdo the first option but if ur really serious take the 2nd option.
and give him a goal like say " ill give u this thing u really like if u study hard" it worked on me wen i was young
2007-10-15 00:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by HyperDragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah... ok i am being serious here you have to show him that you are the boss or else he will continue doing things like this for his whole life thinking that you will just like take his ipod away for a week. what is something that he can not live without, then take that thing away until he gets better grades and learns to not lie and respect you.
2007-10-15 00:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by xobluelaxfrogyox 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
did you tell him the punishment if he went. then keep your promise. it will do him no good if you don't follow through. if not then you should sit down with him and work out a deal you both can live with.
2007-10-15 00:10:53 · answer #11 · answered by Sensuous Flower 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋