They probably have shared their body with a good dozen of other men and they will never give us the same authority over them as they give to their bosses at work... They dont even want to raise kids. My parents have been pressuring me lately to get married and settle down and when I tell them the above they just get upset. Give me some reasons why you think there is still some value for men in a marriage...
2007-10-14 15:55:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
why is this geared towards women? be honest, what do men have to offer women that they have not already given to dozens of other women? how many men really want to raise children? how many men would be willing to allow their wives to be the authority figure?
personally, i don't care how many girls a guy has slept with. that does not make a better or worse potential mate. i don't want either of us to be the authority figure. and i am in no rush to have children, that can wait.
this is not about men or women, it is about what individuals have to offer in a marriage.
2007-10-14 16:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 4⤋
Smile. Your approach is all wrong: marriage only makes sense when both of you are thinking on how much you can GIVE TO EACH OTHER. It has nothing to do with how many people she shared herself with, or how many people you did... I would look for someone who knows what sharing is. If experience is used to learn something valuable, it is not a waste of time to me. And if you are looking to have an authority over another human being, do have some children of your own. They have to listen to you.
I would like to address your comment about not wanting to raise children... Growing up females go through stages... So, if you are asking someone in her teens to have a child, she will freak out on you. Because she is not a woman yet... So in order to find the right one to have the children you want to have authority over, start looking for someone close to your own age...
So if someday you finely find that perfect woman to marry, she will bring you great friendship and unconditional love for better and for very worse in life. Stop for a second and think how can you make her happy.
2007-10-14 23:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do you assume that women have already shared their body with a dozen other men? If so, then those men haven't exactly saved anything for us either - so what do they have to offer us?
As for authority - marriage is a mutual partnership - not a slave/master relationship.
You have a lot to learn and until you do, you are better off not being married.
2007-10-15 12:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's okay for men to sleep around and not women is what I see. Be honest with your parents! Either no woman wants to marry you or you like sleeping around to much yourself. OR are you a rare gem? If it's the latter, you will find her in time. Tell your parents you can donate sperm if they are in a hurry to be grandparents, maybe that will shut their mouths awhile. If you want to remain in their good graces, just tell them you are not a little boy. You will get married and settle down when you find the right woman. Wouldn't they rather you take your time or do they want you to jump in and end up in divorce? The VALUE my hubby gets is knowing I am illness free and that it's a sure thing, I got married to please him. I ALWAYS listen to him about his bad or good day at work and I even cook. It's actually the little things that make married life great.
2007-10-14 23:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by gigglings 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i have only had full intercourse with 2 men in my whole life and neither had my permission.
i hope you get my drift.
as for marriage...if you truly love someone and are willing to settle down...( this goes for both parties) then a person's sexual past should not come into play. it shouldnt even be a topic past the point of being tested for STDs...
personally...if i ever decided to get with a man ....yes i would want him tested...but i would not wish to hear about who he has slept with..because in that case...it would most likely be more than me.
and no its not a jealousy issue..i find being jealous over the past as just plain stupid...but i dont wish to hear about it either. to me it seems more like a competition thing.
2007-10-15 18:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That differs from woman to woman and man to man. For instance I'm saving myself for marriage so once I get married he will be the only man to have had me---also I believe in traditional roles so he will have headship, I can cook really well and will gladly do so as well as clean, ect. Oh and don't forget your spouse is your best friend!
I stink at bookkeeping though so hope he doesn't turn me loose with that. LOL
Some women are making more money than men so they contribute a lot to the household income, some are great at rearing children, some may be excellent gardeners.
Ultimately though you should get married for love and companionship not for what you can get out of the person.
2007-10-14 23:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Ronnie your parents are still toegether, arent they ? Find a nice gal who comes from a family that respects marriage and raise them as you see fit. The past 2 generation of parents didnt even try to fight the influence of the media now you know what their message is and can work to counter it.
2007-10-15 07:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry is a good idea. It is hard I know especially when you are young and horny. Just do not sign that highly punitive marriage contract. Women really want you to sign it as it gives them the legal right to take everything you have and will earn. And they have no obligations to you as far as fidelity, performing wifely duties, or anything else. In a business deal you would have to be insane to sign such crazy contract.
As you get experience in life you will have a better understanding of women and what they are really about.
Once you have some means and can travel outside of America you will see a huge difference in the quality of women, (not only their much lower waist size). You will find that women outside America are often much more dedicated to their man and her family. It is a big eye opener.
2007-10-15 08:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by tom 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
it's just sharing housework. 2-bedroom is easier to clean than 2 one-bedrooms.
And raising kids. Kids are the only thing left in the world after you die (unless you're Bill Gates or Al Gore), so you kinda want them to grow up healthy and happy.
The above benefits both sides of marriage.
Now the women who expect unconditional worship in exchange for sex are indeed not worth marrying. B/c sex is a mutually benefitial thing when done properly.
2007-10-14 22:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
it's about a mutually supportive relationship between the 2, not a virgin/uncharted teritory or dominating the woman, if that is what you want, get a mail-order bride who is barely of age ... since you put it that way, after the first time, what does she have to offer you??? if you want a companion, open your eyes to what a person has to offer as an equal: someone to share your jokes, get your sense of humor, surprise you that she knows how to drive a manual transmission ...
if you don't WANT kids, and you aren't READY to get married, then have the balls to stand up to your parents and say that in plain english, don't give them some debatable excuse ...
2007-10-14 23:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by sassy 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
well for me I stayed a virgin (not just as a technicality either) so yes I still had that to offer I also am a stay at home mama.
really the only thing I can think of for a modern man who has been around the block and is also buying a woman a woman who has been around the block is companionship someone that they hope to grow old with.
can you imagine growing old with no love no children no one to visit you when you are 80 and in a nursing home pushed off and forgotten by everyone else.
it will be in those moments that many people we first decide what there life has cost them.
2007-10-14 23:28:44 · answer #11 · answered by Blessed Rain 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋