well I just found out I am pregnant after 7 long months of trying to conceive. Now i am just scared about bring a small helpless life into this world. My boyfriend said he would support me no mater if I wanted to give it up for adoption, have an abortion, or keep it. I am going to keep it, but I am just scared I wont be a good mother to my baby but, my boyfriend keeps telling me I will. I have been crying nonstop. I just want to be the mother my mom wasnt. I want to give my baby the world plus everything I didnt have growng up. Am I being over dramatic. Are there any websistes that I can look at to help me through this expeirence. Has anyone else went through this. Any advice will help at this point, thank you, Heather (mommy 2 be)!!! :)
2007-10-14 15:41:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hormones hormones hormones!!!! That's all I have to say. Your body is going through many changes, and our hormones are going crazy, hence the worry and crying. Listen to your boyfriend, he knows you and knows you will be a great mother.
2007-10-14 15:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's okay to feel that way. I thought I was totally ready for a baby, but when I found out I was pregnant I kinda freaked out. I spent an entire night crying in my mom's arms telling her I didn't want to have a baby, I wasn't ready like I thought I was. She told me that if you wait until you're ready to have a baby, then you'll never have one, because you're never really ready. It is scary knowing that you're going to be responsible for a new life, but I promise that you can do it. Before long your mind will leave that fear behind and give you all new ones, LoL. It's not easy, the first few days after my baby was born were some of the scariest of my life, I was so afraid of doing everything wrong, I cried all the time. But after a week it was a little better, and another week a little more better, and now she's 3 1/2 months old and I feel like I've been doing this for years!! You will learn, almost without realizing, you will get to know your baby better than you know yourself, and you will be a wonderful mommy!! Congratulations!!
2007-10-15 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by AliDawn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every mom-to-be and mother goes through this. I worry a lot if I'll be everything my little baby needs. As long as your baby is well loved(which it sounds like it will be) and taken care of, YOU have nothing to worry about. There are all kinds of websites and books to help you during this time. Babycenter.com is one of the websites. Your pregnancy week by week and What to expect when you're expecting are a couple of books as well. It sounds like you have a good boyfriend that is will to stand by you as well. Good luck and try to enjoy this rather than worry so much. You'll do just fine. :)
David, also, don't be rude and nasty. I'm having the same fears she is as this is my first child. I'm married, have been for almost three years but that doesn't mean all my fears about a baby are put to rest. Her relationship status does not define how she will be as a mother.
2007-10-14 22:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be scared when you find out you are going to have a baby, I tried for 3 years, and was still terrified once I finally conceived. Obviously, you don't want an abortion if you were trying for 7 months...don't let your fear get the better of you.
Best bet, sign up for parenting classes. You will gain confidence in your parenting skills and meet other women that you can talk to and share your fears with. For now, get the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting", it was like a bible to me and many other women I know. It will help you through everything!
Good luck!
2007-10-14 22:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie momster 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All these emotions are coming down hard on you and you need to just sit down and relax. After trying for so long you finally concieved and feel overwhelmed. There are books and magazines, as well as websites (babyzone.com for example) that can help calm your fears and give you lots of information about being a first time mommy, but 99% of it comes from instinct. I had my son when I was 15 years old and was scared to death I wouldn't be a good mom but once your baby is born it will come natural. You're lucky you have your boyfriend there to support you and stay by your side step by step. Good luck and enjoy your pregnancy. :)
2007-10-14 22:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh the wonderfull hormones of pregnancy. This is sooooo normal it is rediculas. I felt the same way. You will get so emotional about everything. I also was scared about being a good mother. Then you hold your precious baby in your arms and it all goes away. My friend felt the same way when she was pregnant also. We both just stare at our babies at night and cry at how much we love them. being a mother will just come naturally--take it from someone who only babysat like twice and NEVER changed a diaper. You say that you want to be the mother your mother wasn't--then just do it. Do what you wish your mother did for you--without being over extravigant--you don't want to completely spoil. But you will do great. Stay calm, relax--these are your hormones talking.--good luck.
2007-10-14 22:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by little1lz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hun this is perfectly normal. honestly im pregnant with my3rd child and I STILL say this to myself. is it right am i doing okay. can i do this? you will do just fine. theres a teen myspace site to help those who need help and support i myself am willing to help you throughout if you want. im plenty of ears and advice if you want it but only if you want it and obviously would be over the internet but sometimes thats better. your boyfriend is right you will be just fine. and the nonstop crying thats cuz of the increase of hormones. get a myspace account if you dont have one yet you can send me a message on there mine is www.myspace.com/fuknprinczess
what ever your mom wasnt able to provide you or how your life was you know now how you can improve to be better. if it was just items you were lacking honestly all a kid needs is the love and support from their parents from there its a bonus to have those toys you want the tickets to see a concert. or cloths from the gap and such.. just supply what you need to for the child and of course all the love and support you have to offer. just remember YOUR CHILD COMES FIRST. having a baby is the best thing on earth. as great as it is to have a guy around ANY WOMAN can take care of a baby by herself.. some just dont work out as a couple. ive been married for 4 years to a us solider we have 2 kids and one more on the way due in jan. im 3000 miles away from my family and we ahve a very tough schedual right now.. and hes going to korea when the baby is 2 weeks old so im moving back home then... i wish you the best of luck and message me anytime my email is also hbennett2003@gmail.com im more then WILLING to help you in anyway i can..
Heather B(mommy to be and currently mother of 2
2007-10-14 22:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Serenity*~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this: "Not all women has the ability to conceive", You're lucky, keep it. Me and my bf were trying to have one for like 3 years now, but until now, we're still unfortunate.
If you have vices, give it up. Start lessening the shoppings, the impulsive buyings, etc. Have a regular check up. Do what your ob-gyne will tell you. Every morning, do some walking. Buy a book/manual about pregnancy on your local bookstore. That will surely help. Don't just read articles on the internet, it's better to have a very accurate reference with you always.
Good luck!
2007-10-14 22:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of women go through this and it is because you love your baby already and care for it and only want the best. It is perfectly normal. Right now your hormones are going crazy and it is making you very emotional. As time goes on your hormone levels will calm down and you will start feeling better. Just try to be as prepared for this baby as possible. Its never too soon to start getting prepared for it.
2007-10-14 22:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
subscribe to american baby, its a free magazine that gives alot of advise or just google. I do it all the time and Ive been amom 4 12 years now, I still get nervous that I'm not doing a good job. When I was pregnant I was convinced I wouldnt be a good mom. Its alot easier than people make it seem, you just have to be very patient, and not so over-protective.
2007-10-14 22:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by cindy s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I got to say about this matter is why cry now. You said you have been trying for 7 months and now you finally made it. Girl alot of people would want to be in your place right now so suck it up. I'm kinda like you; me and my boyfriend have been trying for 3 months now and when I do get that bundle of joy I will be very happy. He is there for me also. Be happy your man is by your side. You wanted this and you got it so live up to it and PLEASE DO NOT GET AN ABORTION OR GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION.
2007-10-14 22:57:34 · answer #11 · answered by Sunny Days 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋