What can you say to someone who intentionally puts themselves between you and other people in conversations?

Question

When a woman I know sees me having a conversation with other people, she will call them over or walk up and start speaking to the person to distraction, then gradually place her body so that I am left out. She used to claim to be my friend, but she has done this on at least 8 occasions. She also "jokes" around in an insulting way. I think she is jealous of me. I want to say something, but am unsure what to say, considering we are both adults with children. I try to avoid her at all cost, but she associates with many of the same people I do, and I'd hate to lose my mutual friends over this avoidance.

Answer 1

Since you are an adult woman, and have some dignity and self-respect, i think the best thing to do is excuse yourself from the conversation you are having BEFORE she arrives, and walk away... you can continue the conversation later.

I know it's not right to cut others off, but if you gracefully excuse yourself, i dont' think others would mind.

take care.

Answer 2

This may sound cruel but, seems the only way to handle it!!!
Next time she does something like that just side step her and ask the person you were talking to to hold on A minute. Tell her straight-up, it's very rude to keep getting in front of me and interupting the conversation I was having W/ my friend :~)

Hope this helps

P.s. My mother-in-law is the same way and her breath stinks!

Answer 3

Why don`t you just tell her that you and so and so are having
a conversation and will be glad to listen to her when you are finished. Then joke around with her by asking if she can wait
that long. ha haha
Also, is the person you are conversing with afraid of the woman? or is this soman so involved with things that it would
be in their best interest to always leave you in the middle of a conversation and go and talk to her?
Are these really friends?

Answer 4

As long as you continue to avoid her, or not let her know how you feel about her actions, it will continue to get worse. Personally, I'd tell her that she is being mildly insulting, and it bothers you to see a friend act so childishly. Let her know you are trying to help her grow past such silly nonsense. Maybe she can get the hint that way. If not, open both barrels and let her have it. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Tell her that it is rude to do that and then push yourself back into the convo that you were having. Don't let her push you around, push back. She doesn't seem to want to act like an adult so you have to. As far as the insults go just ignore them, sticks and stones will break your bones but word will never hurt you. Maybe pull her aside and ask her what her problem is, just don't get sucked into her games!!! Hope this helps!!!
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Think Pink!!!

Answer 6

Women sometimes are very bitchy toward each other; insecurity makes her behave the way she does and you ought to talk to her about it if you want to end the problem or just avoid her completely.
Good luck, Maria.

Answer 7

u knw this always happened to me before so one day i was having a convo with a friend and the individual came in to distract the person...i wanted to kick her a** but i settled to jus telling her: A and B having a conversation C yourself out..lol sounds ridiculous but darn it, it worked:)

Answer 8

Next time just say, "Do you mind, I wasn't finished." and continue talking. If they are your friends too, they probably would like to say the same thing to her, but just can't figure out a way to either.

Answer 9

So anyway, who else in here wants to have a conversation?

Answer 10

I'm interested to see the answers you receive..I have a co worker who does this to me. Frustrating!