We're living separated, I'm in Norh California and he;s in South. I've move back to South Cali because I can't handle how my life was at my in laws's house. I moved and his mom told him to break up and he did. He came to visit my daughter and we're still keeping in touch. I asked him how our future will be? he said i'll never leave my parents. I said ok if you think your parents are your priority and you can take care of them and I'll take care of my 1 year old daughter and my five months old fetus alone. He said "to weight my parents and our kids to see whom is more important then I would say, if it wasn't my parents brought me to this world and our kids wouldn't exist." It's hurt me to death, my kids deserve the best and most of all is the love from us.
2007-10-14 14:21:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's so unfair, his parents and lyounger sis. are always remind him to help them financially even they knew he stole his money from where he work(supermarket). I always ask him to stop doing that but his family knew and they keep showing him that they need his help. They're are still young and working. How can him realizes how important we are to him? My kids need a family eventhough he never sleepless when our daughter was born. Never wake up a single night.
Thanks for reading
2007-10-14 14:26:10 · update #1
Your very right and your husband is being very selfish.
2007-10-14 14:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get married, you have created a new family unit, and that should be your priority (after God). Parents and siblings and other family are still important, but you are now committed to something else. Yes, parents bring you into this world, and teach you how to live in it when they are no longer here. If they are still pressuring him to care for them and not his wife and child, and he agrees, then he should not be married. He is not ready or mature enough to be a husband and daddy. Sorry, I hope things can somehow work out for you.
2007-10-14 14:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father said this same thing to my mother when they were young around 30s things changed drastically once he realised what his parents truly were doing is emotionally blackmailing laying guilt trips wait for sometime pray to God your husband will see the same thing too realise and get back to his kids in his old age he has only his kids to look after him not parents hell know whose important sooner or later
2007-10-14 14:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by abrowneyezbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an asshole!!! He's bringing human beings into the world too...They, along w/ you should be on his priority list, on the very top of it!!! You should tell him he's not a baby anymore and to let go of his parents hip!!!
2007-10-14 14:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor thing! that is so sad, he sounds like a dirty rat.
you're better off going it alone without him. if he thinks his kids are not the centre of his world, that's his problem.
you need to raise those children to understand that love is the only important thing in a family, you can give them all the love they need without a father.
good luck!!!!
2007-10-14 14:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by sass24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 07:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a wimp.
maybe sever ties, except for his visits with the kids, and start a new life of your own.
2007-10-14 14:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good grief he sounds like an imbacille!! to think adults are more important than his own children!
2007-10-14 14:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by just duky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be first with your husband, then your children, then his parents.
2007-10-14 14:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by SandraR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell momma's boy you can go it alone.
2007-10-14 14:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋