I like p&s better everyone is just so fun everypone in R&S is all uptight. When I do venture into there it seems like I get pelted with peoples emotions.
2007-10-14 14:06:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
P/S
2007-10-14 14:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked a question on Religion. "Was this treatnent excessive" in relation to the death of my partner Gwenneth and the horrid treatment by her family. This answer is one that I treasure of all that I have had on any forum on answers
by PJ H
Rose, I am so very sorry for your loss. Now, let an old grey nurse talk to you for a bit. Sometimes people know they are very unwell, but cover the symptoms "for a while" because a loved one has something important that they want them to do, like a trip, and do not want anything to get in the way. If this is the case, Gwen sort of made the decision for you to go by not giving you all the information. I am pretty sure she knew something was very wrong for some time. If she was as strong as she was young, she could probably hide quite a bit. Maybe not good choice, but a very comman choice of many adults.
Sometimes virulent cancer can grow and spread for a very long time with very few symptoms and then there are an overwhelming number of symptoms, including very intense pain. If Gwen was suddenly placed on a large number of painkillers very quickly, she may not have been able to express her desire to contact you in a way that made sense.
If her family was contacted and you were not physically present to exercise any legal power of attorney that you had arranged, they became the decision makers, and the health care workers must repect that legal role, even if it means not trying to contact you. They likely had no choice. I doubt Gwen had much choice either. I saw the same senario many times as a hospice worker, usually with gay couples, sometime interracial or mixed religious denomination couples. It would make us so mad that .....Sh**!
If she were in a hospice, they would not have had your information to contact you, because her family would have had to provide it. If she were in a hospital or a hospice, she was not alone. She had people that sat with her, cleaned her, cared for her, rubbed her back, held her hand, gave her medicine but not alone.
Gwen sounds like an amazing strong, forgiving, loving person, and I am happy you had years together. I very seriously doubt that she would want you to carry her memory with this much pain. Please do not take away the happiness and joy that she gave you and replace it with what...this? No. baby, that is just wrong.
I will give you the speech that I would use when I worked hospice, death is like birth, it is an intensely emotional watershed moment in your life and the lives connected to you. Nothing will ever be the same after either. But, they are just short time events that are quite brief and out of the control and responsibility of those around them. When you compaire the few moments or hours or days to the years of love, commitment, humor, sacrfice and joy that the person brings to these same lives, it does not take away from the death and loss, but it keeps it in perspective. I doubt Gwen would ever allow anyone to treat you to the pain that you are feeling. If you can be kind enough to forgive her family for that outragous treatment of the both of you, can't you forgive yourself for ..being out of town. For the sake of who she was, it is time to forgive the person she loved the most. God bless you and keep you safe.
Great good can be found in unlikely places.
Rose P.
2007-10-14 21:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answer questions in BOTH categories ... and I'm the 'same way' in both categories. Yes, I am a 'fun lover' but I also CARE about people, whatever they think ... so I won't 'pelt you' with MY emotions in either category, either. I must be 'good' at my answers, because I get 'best answer' to what SEEMS like a 'real question' but is really a 'hidden joke' ... or looks like a 'joke' when it's a serious answer.
2007-10-14 21:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both, they are full of interesting and intelligent people ~ and although the perception out there is that P&S is more about 'fun', I can tell you the folks there are certainly no lightweights!
I think of them as great places to drop in for some fun, interest, intelligence, and to learn lots about people.
The folks on R&S can get a bit het up, but they are talking about something that means a LOT to them, so it's understandable. And after reading Rose's beautiful response (above), it's clear that it can mean a lot to others, also.
Best wishes :-)
2007-10-14 23:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer Religion & Spirituality. I consider Polls & Surveys rather trivial. But one of my contacts starred this question, so here I am.
I think if you're mostly here for the fun of it, Polls & Surveys is the place to be, unless of course you have a special interest such as sports or music or pets.
2007-10-14 21:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polls & Surveys.
2007-10-14 21:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by Judas Rabbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love both equally - i have more friends in R&S for some reason
2007-10-14 21:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that everyone is going to say P&S.
2007-10-14 21:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you posted it in P&S I would say P&S.
2007-10-14 21:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Pip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like it here better and I'm a Jesus Freak.
:)
MooO!
2007-10-14 21:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Bye Bye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R&S is not for the squeamish thats for sure.
2007-10-14 21:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋